Well here's a little big of bad news - went in to the office this morning and found that someone had gone in overnight and taked all the money out of my petty cash box (about $40.00) a little loose change from my desk (about $7.00) and then the worst - took my laptop - it was old and very limited on disk space so I was thinking of replacing it anyway but it was useable - get this though - the office was locked and the alarm was set this morning and there was no alarm last night. Who ever went in had a key and knew my code to the alarm (I know - I shoud have changed it before but it is changed now) I have a good idea as to who did it. (and so do the police)
Just got a nice IM from C wanting to know how I was after the breakin - I told her that I was fine but that I was really going to miss the gummy bears (They stold a package of gummy bears) She said that I was crazy. after a little more chit chat she told me to have a good weekend - I told her to have a good one too and sent a
baby step from her - she innitiated an IM contact. (I guess that is one of my new goals - but I need to set down and redraft goals again. and really start to work on getting there)
Quote: baby step from her - she innitiated an IM contact. (I guess that is one of my new goals - but I need to set down and redraft goals again. and really start to work on getting there)
Maybe we all need to do that. Sometimes we let things invade our "safe place" and become bitter and put up walls. I went there big time this morning!
Gee, I bet I can guess who it was that came in and stole things... Yep you should of changed the code, but like me you trust people, believing they would never do that. Hope they catch them red-handed. Will you press charges?
Sorry to here about what happened. And what were they thinking stealing those gummy bears! Gee wizz!
I have filed a police report - I have no problem with what happens to her if it was her that came in - she made the choice to do what she did and she will have to live with the results. Since she did turn in her keys then if she had a key to get in then it would have to have been planned by making another key.
The positive is that the computer was old and I was kinda planning on getting another one (not this soon tho) and it did get a baby step from C. I guess I can live with that.
Since I am going to be out of town this Wednesday and no flying lessions I set up a flight today at 7 - 8:30. Not having much else to do I went to the airport early (around 3) and just chitchatted with some other pilots. you can get lots of information that way. while I was reviewing different symbols on the charts (maps for flying) who should call on my cell but C.
Seems that about a month ago she had some workers trim several trees in the front yard and they left a huge pile of branches and stuff in the front yard by the road thinking the county would come by and pick it up. Well they did not and C is going to have to move it herself and called me to see if I knew where our electric chain saw was. She had already looked at every place I thought it was so I said I would come over and try to help find it.
She has three boys 21, 24 and 27 and all three were at her house yesterday and she fixed them a big home cooked dinner and while they were there she strongly hinted that she needed some of the stuff moved. Well not a stem was moved.
She called the middle son after calling me to ask if he still had our electric chain saw so she could cut some of the branches to a manageable length and size but he said he had already returned it and somehow they rubbed each other the wrong way and he ended up hanging up on her.
When I got there she was almost in tears and very emotional about it. I did give her a hug and told her to take what he said and did with a grain of salt. I could not find the saw and she asked me if I wanted a coke and I said Yes. We sat on the back porch and talked some and I tried to lighten up the conversation and help her relax. But she did ask if I went camping with GF yesterday. I told her that instead of camping we went for a hike then went home and watched the DVD.
While we were talking her Sis came over and said she wanted a cosmo and C said she could use one too. I said that I had not fixed one in a while and said I would fix it for them. (gave them a chance to talk just a little alone) after they finished the consmos, Sis said she wanted to use C's computer to look up something on the net and C asked me if I wanted to eat something before I went back to the airport to fly and I said of course. As I was eating C came over and sat down beside me and we talked some more. She asked me if the lady I had a date with was a keeper and if I talked to GF about her. I asked her why she wanted to know and she said that if we were going to be friends that she did not want GF to dislike her. When she took something to the refrigerator and on the way back to the table she passed behind me and slipped her arms around me and gave me a big hug from the back. after a few seconds she sat down again and said thanks for supporting her and being there. We talked some more and I asked her about our Tuesday night dinner and she said that evidently I did not get her last message on the IM when she said that she would have to back out of the dinner. I said that that was fine and we could get together after I got back from Boston. (by the way, if anyone on the BB is from the Boston area maybe we can get together this weekend) By then it was time to go and I left to go to the airport.
when I got home and settled in who should call but C. She said that she wanted to appologize for being so emotional today and to thank me for being so sweet to her. I said that I was glad I was there for her. She said that her middle son called her later and said that before he was out in the yard and on his cell and it lost connection and that he did not hang up on her and that he was sorry that she thought things were bad between them. I told her that a lot of times things are not as bad as one thinks and that communications is good. We talked about lots of things for almost 40 minutes including her saying that she was sorry that she wasn't going to Boston with me. We talked about some things to do there and a little later she asked me if someone else was going to with me. I told her just me, myself and I and between the 3 of us we would have fun. I did tell her that if she could get up on Sunday afternoon through Monday afternoon she was welcome. However, since her business is very busy and she really has no help now she likely can not come even if she wanted to. She did say though that she might still be able to do the Tuesday night dinner tho and would let me know tomorrow.
Well, this is longer than I thougt - but it does raise some interesting questions. Questions that I will have to be patient to find out the answers to.
is it just me? where is the og in all of this? why wasn't he called for emotional support during her tough time? why wasn't he invited over to help her thru this mess that she found herself in with the branches???
i don't know odga, but she seems to still have an emotional support attachment to you - to me that is a good thing. i think your 'living your life' is having quite an effect on her
there are lots of db'rs in boston - sage/leenie/acorn i believe are all around there
and btw - are you coming to the beach???? it's only 25 days away
Like KK, I also wonder where the OG is in all this. As these questions are also coming up in my sitch, lately. I think you moving on without her action is working!
Keep DBing and being her friend, now I just need to practice what I preach! LOL
Hi Kitti and Deb - that was my thought exactly - and she is asking me a lot of questions about GF - is she a keeper, what did you do, is anyone else going with you to Boston. etc.
Also in talking with her yesterday she said she was very proud of me for learning to fly. I told her that when I get my license I was going to fly down to south Georgia to see my Daughter and to the Knoxville area to see my Brother. Also told her that we could fly to another area of South Georgia to see her other sis if she wanted to. She also clearly admitted that she was going throug MLC. I reminded her that not only that but she had the change of life also at the same time with the related harmone changes which really messed with her emotions and she was going through the burn out with her job too. But I let her know that I believed in her work and in her and I was happy I could be there to give her a hug when she needed one. I hope it gives her lots to think about.
Altho the convo yesterday and the phone convo last night was intersting and showed baby steps and promise from her, I still need to remember not to fall back into the pursuing mode. Keep the mystery and detachment and let her come to me.
after a little more chit chat she told me to have a good weekend - I told her to have a good one too and sent a 
