But clearly, as you've already found in your sitch, they have not done the work on themselves they need to do and what they really need is a time out from relationships to gather themselves and get some much-needed help.
I'm not the original poster in this thread so it's not my sitch but thanks anyway - I just saw your post regarding THIS OM, and wanted to hear your opinion in general.
Oops sorry, I should have looked closer at who was posting
Anotherstander, Sorry this took so long, currently deployed with horrible connection issues. I would say that currently my R w/ GF is getting to the serious level. And I have wondered about that exact same point. What I always seem to come back to is I do not allow WW to talk about feelings or rehash our past. I know this can't continue too far into the future, I just decided I would show compassion and patience with her instead of the i told you so stance. I figured it would be a better ending if we split cordial rather than angry at one another when that thine comes. Thank you for your insight and I hope to hear back from you.
Sotto, It is good to see you again. Yeah it's crappy how the marriage went from something so promising to gone in months is wild. But looking I know in my heart after almost 3 years of waiting it's time to make a change. I tend to tell those that know my sitch, an affair is a mistake, leaving your spouse and starting a new life with someone else is a "life changing decision" you just don't put life in reverse once you find the road leads someplace you didn't expect. It took a long while to get right with myself, but now that I am, I feel like compassion and patience are my two strongest assets. Because when we finally end this relationship there will be no doubt the man I am in her eyes. And although it pains me a little to think about it I still care for her, and I hope one day she finds someone else who will show her what a real relationship is like again. With compassion and patience not lies, deceit, and false promises.
- I just saw your post regarding THIS OM, and wanted to hear your opinion in general.