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Hi JellyB - thank you for the time you took to write all that. I considered what you had to say, and I've already been there and done that. I chased her around the globe and tried to do it, and it didn't work. My wife just doesn't like me anymore. Moments before I left (she didn't know) I gave my daughter a hug, and kissed my wife on the cheek and I walked out. For two weeks she did not call or send me a single message to ask where I was. And I have asked if I can return to the U.S. and live in the same city, and she has said 'NO!' My very presence is a threat to them. I'm tall, educated, smart, capable, an atheist, and can navigate any situation - as opposed to them, little people from the third world, insular, and catholic. Yes, I was attracted to my latina wife for the attributes you mentioned. My Greek mother told me that I should have stayed within my own race, and I think she is right. But anyway, that doesn't help here, as I've already got a daughter that I adore. And I'm afraid of the damage my wife is doing to her because her focus is on HER family rather than OUR family.

Now moving forward, what can I do to get my wife to approach me to start talking. At the moment we only exchange a few words over Skype calls that are largely centred on our daughter seeing her daddy. Other than that, I keep my distance.

Athas, I've read every word of your posts and I'm still really confused. Please understand I'm not asking you "to get all soppy" as you said, LOL! But your posts are filled with anger and resentment towards your W, and maybe even some hatred. You sound furious, you literally have nothing good to say about her. But then every once in a while you pepper in a comment that you want her back. Why? Why would you want to be married to someone who's goals are so diametrically opposed to yours? Someone who keeps leaving you, who ranks you so low below her family, who has no respect for you, who talks so poorly to you and about you? I get the impression that your goal is really to have your D with you, and I would totally understand that. But if THAT is your goal, then dragging a W that you hate into your home just to have D there is NOT a worthy goal and is NOT the sort of thing DB'ing is here for. So again- WHAT IS YOUR REAL GOAL?

Yes, I don't belong here.

Hello athas,

I'm so sorry for the situation you are in.

It is easy to be conflicted when you have so many emotions and thoughts going through your head! Let's start by focusing on you and your precious daughter.

Knowing what to do and what not to do at this point is crucial. Feel free to give me a call at 303-444-7004 to discuss how we can best help you determine what to do next. We work with many, many international clients (especially in Australia).

Cristy

Resource Coordinator
The Divorce Busting Center
303-444-7004

Thank you for reading my post. There is nothing I can do. I have just realised that I married crazy in spite of all the red flags. Ergo, my fault. She wants to be married to her family, and not a husband.

My wife will clearly support both parents until she goes broke. My daughter will eventually grow up and leave home, and I'll be there for her when that time comes.

I'm done.