Hey all, especially the newbies. I've not been on here for many months. You will notice that you use this forum less and less, the further you move from BD day.
To round up quickly, BD out of the blue, fought for 2 months to save M, decided to save myself, D within 4 months of BD - Never been happier.
I have learnt so much about detachment, co-dependency and true love since that fateful BD day. The key is that we believe that we can control who we fall in love with and who falls in love with us. The inverse is also true, we believe that we can control who we fall out of love with and who falls out of love with us.
Now, many have tried and failed - you simply cannot make someone fall in love with you. The WWS is not wayward, they are simply not in-love. This is the challenge with M. We marry when in-love, we D when out-of-love. Simple, yet painful.
If someone truly loves you, they will show you, they will show you every second of every day. If they do not love you, they will not even show-up - LOL.
There is a lot of anxiety in this process of realisation, and this forum is without the best to discuss it on. BUT, do it for yourself, make yourselves whole again, love again.
Just cos things are going right, doesn't mean that they were always wrong.
