I'm a veteran of the Army JAG Corps (lawyers) and h just retired from the Army Medical corps. There is no such thing as court ordered military service today.
There hasn't been anything remotely like that for decades. It's an all volunteer military and no one gets ordered to join. In fact, more than half of applicants for the military today, are rejected.
Whether for drug offenses, or they fail a urinalysis, or have a criminal record of some sort, or cannot pass the psychological tests or a physical test, or make weight,
most cannot get in.
Just fyi in case he says that again, it's not true.
Thank you for your service! Also, thank you for the knowledge. He always said he went in because he chose to, plus pressure from his father. A few months ago, he told me he had to go to court over something, drugs maybe, and the judge gave him an option. Go into the military, or something else (jail time?) So maybe not court ordered, but he said the judge was very firm. So he picked the military. I'll have to ask him to tell me the story again. I do remember him saying he thought he told me and he was shocked I did not know that detail, but I know for certain he never mentioned going to court before.
I went to counseling, she wants me to finish reading Boundaries in Marriage.
H told me he has a doctors appointment tomorrow, but our insurance, for some reason, canceled at the end of April (will be finding out more about this soon). I told him I think he should reschedule, and he did not want to at all. I told him the last time he went, including the insurance's contributions, his appointment was over $4,000. He didn't care, but later in afternoon he said he changed his mind and he was not going. I asked him why he changed his mind and he became very angry, going on about why he didn't have to have a reason and why he didn't have to answer that.
His immaturity is getting worse and I hope he doesn't do something drastic.
He text me last night while working and said he meant what he said about getting me an SUV and paying for it. I drive an older car and during our entire marriage, we have not purchased a new vehicle. So we shall see if he does. Sometimes he does the things he says he will and sometimes he does not.
I went to counseling, she wants me to finish reading Boundaries in Marriage.
H told me he has a doctors appointment tomorrow, but our insurance, for some reason, canceled at the end of April (will be finding out more about this soon). most times they give you 30 days notice. Is it work related? I mean, how does one just have their health insurance with kids, canceled? I told him I think he should reschedule, and he did not want to at all. Because of the costs? If he insists on going, I'd assume he feels it is urgent. I would not stand in his way. What kind of appointment is it?
I told him the last time he went, including the insurance's contributions, his appointment was over $4,000. so the out of pocket was what?
He didn't care, but later in afternoon he said he changed his mind and he was not going. I asked him why he changed his mind and he became very angry, going on about why he didn't have to have a reason and why he didn't have to answer that.
well, maybe I'm missing something. Didn't you tell him Not to go b/c it costs too much? Maybe he didn't want to admit that is why he decided not to.
What other reason could there be, since he originally wanted to go, & you told him not to?
His immaturity is getting worse and I hope he doesn't do something drastic. like what? What type of thing would he do that is drastic?
He text me last night while working and said he meant what he said about getting me an SUV and paying for it. I drive an older car and during our entire marriage, we have not purchased a new vehicle. So we shall see if he does. Sometimes he does the things he says he will and sometimes he does not.
Whoah, I'm confused. So, you worry about him "doing something drastic" - which is a disturbing thing to read,
and you are glad (or sad?) that he is not going to see the doctor (though i'm not clear on what type of doctor appointment it is)
I assume you must be upset about not having health insurance... but then you switch topics to him getting you a new car.
What does all ^^^this mean?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
if you are considering divorce, as you seem to be, I would not take on more debt. Get your used car fixed, and keep the debts down or you could be responsible for some of it.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
We did get some kind of vague letter in the mail. It did not say it was getting canceled, but I found it WAS canceled the day of my first therapy appointment. Me and my husbands insurance is separate from our children's as we changed policies (same company though) earlier this year. I was nervous about doing it because we had the same one before for three years, but the costs kept going up, so we took the jump and three months later it was canceled. I'm still waiting a call back to find out exactly what is going on.
He did feel it was important, but he goes to this doctor every month and he has rescheduled once at least, if not twice, before for a month later and was fine. So in this situation, that made the most sense to me (wait to be covered again).
I think you may be right though, he may not have wanted to admit he changed his mind based on what I said. I didn't think of that.
As far as something drastic, he has done such crazy things in the past when he goes through similar times like he is now, I do not put anything past him. He has gotten fired, he has blown budgeted bill money, he's went to jail, he's left and slept in his car for weeks, he's driven drunk and shot out the window in his car, he's shown up at our doorstep drunk when we separate with a gun (later said it was a BB gun) and asked to crash at our place, he has even told me to my face that "I had a gun, I'd shoot you in the face right now." I don't put anything past him!
I guess I threw in the tidbit of him saying he said he was going to get me an SUV and "he meant that," as a moment he was being nice. That doesn't happen very often. Getting a new vehicle has been a big issue in our marriage as I have been wanting to save and buy one outright and he just wants to get a vehicle ASAP. He says whether it's for me or him (he wants a sports car), he is obsessed with getting a new vehicle.
