Welcome back. I'm happy to hear that you and your baby girl are home. I continue to pray for you and I will. I especially will pray for DBrandNew to be healthy and safe. You've done a wonderful thing and your children will benefit from it as will you.
Yes, H is being a jerk and it will cost him at some point just not today. As I shared with you before I was not with W and D21 consistently for the first 6 months of her life. I was focused on me too. W still punishes me for that - ala our situation today.
He will regret it and it will cost him. Be strong, be there for your kids. I hope you have friends and family around you to help with the nappies and meals etc.
Take care - we all love you.
M:50 W:53 MR:20 D:21 S:17 S:11 BD-Sept 2015 Suspected PA Sept 2015-Confronted W & OM Dec 2015 Actually EA In house Sep:Jan/16-May 2016 W moved out:May 22 2016 OM-Intro Oct/17-On scene July/Aug 2017
Lostini, thank you. I'll try and catch up with your story when I feel a bit more with it.
Bigbiz, thanks for the love. I don't even know wether he is capable of such a thing. To push a divorce through while I'm sat in the icu with our child just seems beyond cruel. And then he asks me what I have to be stressed about, he clearly only sees him.
Me 26 H 25 M 4 T 5 Baby born 4/14 BD: 1/15 EA: 2/15 PA: 4/15 reconciling: 4/15 ILYBINILWY- 11/15 ILY-1/16 ILYBNILWY 4/16 ILY 6/16 ILYBINILWY 6/16 Baby due 3/17 BD 8/16
Congratulations on the arrival of your daughter. These days being born early is less of a big deal for hospitals. My first son was five weeks early. You should see that beast now!!!
The timing of the papers was lousy. I am not sure there is a good timing for that!
Anyway best wishes and good luck with your new life.
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together
Hello Cherry, it's good to see a post from you - I've been wondering how you are. And congratulations on the birth of your lovely daughter. I'm sorry she wasn't well to start with and glad to hear you are both home.
As for the D papers - well that is a bit yucky isn't it. You know sometimes I do wonder if it's just a way of prodding us to see if we'll react (and justify the decision.) Who knows, but I'm sorry that added to an already stressful time for you.
From all I have read about you Cherry, you will look after your kids and you, hold your head high and keep your nails painted. As for him - well he will do what he's do - just live your life well, come what may...
Take care Cherry and I'm sending my very best wishes to you.
Xx
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
Thanks roist, she wasn't early, she was taken ill after delivery having seizures. She's a beautiful feisty little lady.
The timing of the papers was lousy, but it's the sheer fact he was pushing it through while I was in the icu. I feel like this has come over me a bit like bd all over again. But I think that's just because of all the stress I've had and the fact I've just given birth. I know that I'm mourning the loss of someone who went a long time ago, and the hopes and dreams of our future; not the person he is now
Me 26 H 25 M 4 T 5 Baby born 4/14 BD: 1/15 EA: 2/15 PA: 4/15 reconciling: 4/15 ILYBINILWY- 11/15 ILY-1/16 ILYBNILWY 4/16 ILY 6/16 ILYBINILWY 6/16 Baby due 3/17 BD 8/16
Cherry! How are you??? I've been thinking about you constantly and wondering how things have been going. I am sorry your wee sweetie had a rough start but very happy she has turned out spunky like her amazing mama.
Keep checking in and know you are surrounded by love and support here. Your WH is a real piece of work.
M 10yrs T 13yrs BD #1Oct 2015-PA between WAH and COW BD #2 April 2016-WH resumed PA, she broke it off Jan 2 2017 WH says he wants divorce April '17-Letting go 2018 D busted DD8, DS6, DS3
Cherry, I know you don't know me, but I'm fairly new here, and have gone back and read all your story. I have such admiration for you, and the battle you fight to do what is best for you and your beautiful children. I wish you all the best, and will add you to my most watched posts. I know you are the real thing.
M-60 H-51 M-14 years BD 12/26/16 S 1/1/17
"First the pain, then the rising." Glennon Doyle Melton
