Oh, you all, thanks so much for your wise input. You are all three so on target on all points. I really needed to hear what you had to say this morning Rottz, because on the tip of my tongue is asking for reassurance that he isn't seeing her....and I KNOW it will not go well if I do.

Actually, I think things are going pretty good if I manage to look at it objectively...
Last night when I got home from work, S reported that H phoned OW for about 1/2 hour and "sounded sad, just kind of mumbled around"....I didnt want to encourage S's watchfulness, but he needs to be able to tell someone what he hears, I guess....don't know if he heard details of convo, S didnt say & I didnt ask.....
However, I didnt get home till after 9,H & I sat & talked then for about 1 & a half hours, just chatting about work & upcoming events, etc.....We were both really tired, so I enjoyed the chat & didn't expect more. When we went to bed, H initiated ML, which surprised me, he was actually enthusiastic, except that I accidentally hurt him by being overly enthusiastic and caused him to "lose it" for a while, I felt really bad about that....but we spent about 2 hours that were really nice and fun. He called me a "naughty b---h", which scared me because he's never done that before, but I asked him if that was a good or bad thing to be, and he said it was good, so I guess I will take his word for it. We talked a little later, and H actually remembers the very 1st time we ML....that was MANY years ago, so I was surprised, kind of touched.
This morning, H made the comment that I was almost scary because "the more you get the more you seem to want" , I told him I've read thats the way it works.
We talked a little before I left for work, H came to me and turned in a tag on my top that was sticking up a little--I actually took that as a kindness and "act of service" because he hasnt done things like that before, or even noticed...then h walked me to the door and kissed me good bye. These little things mean so much and make it so hard for me not to get my hopes up. They also make it so hard when I know he still calls OW. However, I did notice at Annual meeting....looks to me like she chews her fingernails. Maybe she's more anxious than I am. I still gotta deal w/Saturday....I appreciate all your prayers on that one too! will try to catch up w/everyone later in the weekend, gotta run right now. Everybody have a good one!
Deb

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