I suspect my W will move out at the end of March as she keeps asking whether I've heard if my daughter and her bf are renewing their rental agreement which expires at the end of March
She went to do her nails, as she's always done with her sister and then her mom asked to meet her for coffee... her parents don't know we're separated. Im curious as to what they talked about, but didn't ask
limbo is tough... and long
BD Oct 2016 Me 47, W 43 together 25 years S 25, D 22
the original post should have stated that I had become complacent in our relationship
Originally Posted By: Sjs777
sometimes try to figure out which applies (180, MLC, Distance vs Pursuit, DB'ing... etc). Ive purchased several programs, talked to councillors... but in the end I take a balance of each as there is a general overlap. Perhaps I'm misguided
Hello Sjs777,
I'm so sorry for the situation you are in.
It is easy to be conflicted when you have so many thoughts going through your head! This isn't a one size fits all circumstance. It would be best to really focus on which strategy would be best for your specific needs.
You mentioned being complacent in your relationship. Speaking with one of our DB Coaches will help you clarify your goals.
Knowing what to do and what not to do at this point is crucial. Feel free to give me a call at 303-444-7004 to discuss how we can best help you determine what to do next.
Cristy
Resource Coordinator The Divorce Busting Center 303-444-7004
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You may be on moderation now, post in small frequent replies and stay on this thread until you reach 100 posts (for your thread, you can also post on other peoples threads to give support). Especially on this Newcomers forum, where the posting activity is very active, and your posts can quickly fall to the bottom of the page or even several pages down. Keep journaling and asking questions - people will come! Most important - POST!
Get out and Get a Life (GAL). DETACH.
Believe none of what he or she says and half of what he/she does.
Have NO EXPECTATIONS.
Take care of yourself, breathe, eat, sleep, exercise.
Take the parts of this advice that you need and don't worry if I have repeated something that you have already done.
Here are a few links to threads that will help you immensely:
Separated for just over 6 months after 25 years, Ive been applying DB principals for 5 of those months, Feeling distancing has little pursuit in return, any thoughts?
Working on GAL, while continuing to 180 and DB.
Further detail n my previous post. Just not sure how to link it
I realize it takes patience, and i do have it, just feeling a little stuck, like i should be doing more
BD Oct 2016 Me 47, W 43 together 25 years S 25, D 22
I'm right there in limbo with you. My wife hasn't really moved out either, even though she has her own house now. It's hard, and I don't have any advice for you, except to say that I would have separated our finances much earlier.
M:23 T:26 Me:53, Wife: 60 S:18 D:16 filed 7/16 W moved out 4/28/17
Thats a big part of things for me, and her as well, in that there is substantial shared debt as well as to whether to sell the house. I was and still am quite busy with settling my parents estate as well, as my dad passed away suddenly 2 months ago
BD Oct 2016 Me 47, W 43 together 25 years S 25, D 22
