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He is the oldest. He started helping his family taking odd jobs since 16. His mom always had very high expectations from him and he was an excellent until mock when he ditched everyone not just me and the kids. His dad was a very well respected person but worked inanother city so was home only on weekends. He passed when h was 26 so u had to put his brother and sister into college and then he his sister married . He was an excellent h, son , brother but when mlc happened he rebelled on all of us and cut ties with all. Me, his mom, his brother his sited and his friends . The only ones who he did not blame or scream at were his kids and his younger sister. But he abandoned them emotionally to hurt me us I guess.

Anyway here is my latest update. I am having fun enjoying my life especially that I feel me leaving opened a space for his to step up. So rather than feeling guilt that I left my kids I think I did the best thing for them. It has been 5 days since I left he has been msg them daily sometimes they initiate others he does. He keeps telling them how much he loves them and I am so happy that my kids will feel loved by him. The new thing is that he suggested they skype tomorrow. Another phone call in one week. Let's see if they do. He knows I can view their msg but Kam not commenting.

Still looking for an apartment hopefully will find one soon

Lana:

I'm so happy that he is continuing his efforts with the kids. My H's on/off behavior with my kids has been so hard on all of us. I can let go of my anger about a lot of the things he has done, but the children are my hot button. I hope your H keeps it up!

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