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HI again!

OK - This is me trying to appear confident (fake it till I make it) and strong.

My H is involved in the sale of my rental home that I've owned for 17 years. I love this home and planned on it being our retirement and/or son's starter home. Well, because of my H's decision to leave, I'm in a financial bind - no response necessary here, just trust me, and I'm having to sell my home.

H is the seller's agent - yes, because financially that is the best option, so he's involved.

I'm scared as **** and very sad at the sale of this home. Now, listen to this, December 9th, my H DB; February 9th my daddy suddenly died and now I'm dealing with the sale of my beloved home and one that I thought I may even move back into (with my husband) once we retired or sold to finance our retirement or held and give to my son, anyway it certainly wasn't going to be sold this way, in my mind.

Well, do I let in on my emotional vulnerability to my H? Or should I just keep it professional and businesslike? HMMM??

Thanks!!

Good for you! I'm working on the same things. Hope you find some peace.

Keep it business like
Consult a lawyer if needed

1st,

Sorry to hear about your Dad. My mom has stage 4 liver cancer. And on top of it the ex and her reactions...and some of the things she said concerning my Mom's health. Ugh.

I know how you feel...I'm scared, too. I love the house we are in now but I will have to get a more affordable one. I wanted the kids to grow up in this one.

I mirror what Cadet said - keep it business like and nothing else. Because, after all, that's exactly what it is.

Thank you Jeep74. It's been an extremely emotional roller coaster these past couple of months. However, I try to keep my life tempered with the fact that I have tremendous blessings; I'm healthy, my son is healthy. We have a home and food. I have a job I love and I'm well educated, so I'll always have means to earn money. I have a great deal of supportive people and am well loved by family and friends.

My WAS has given me the gift of awakening. I am discovering myself at 49, things I had long forgotten. I am beautiful, both inside and out. I am loving, kind, thoughtful and appreciative. The more I read about MLC, the more assured I am that my WAH is going through one. It is difficult to understand his choices and I may never - shoot, HE may never. And, I'll be here for him patiently waiting, until I can no longer wait or until it's no longer in my best interest to wait.

I just read Jack Bean Stalk's letter from to a LBS from a MLC'r and cried my eyes out. It is so telling of the EXACT place I am at with my WAH.

I'm so happy that we are encouraged to post here. BTW - You were right - Jeep74 - by suggesting I stop texting my WAH "good morning" AND to both you and Cadet for advising I keep my tone and mindset with WAH professional. He texted me a pic of a dinner he was having with mutual friends late last night (3 hr difference time zone). I neither responded to that, nor texted him this morning. I haven't heard a word from him all day, nor has it really bothered me too much. When he calls me, and he will, I will be upbeat, positive and kind.

Thanks.

OMG Jeep74,

AND I'm very sorry about your mom!! That is so very tough to be going through your M sitch and also the emotions of dealing with your mom's health. Truly, I'm so sorry.

Hi 1st.



Those are more than tremendous blessings, ma'am. Your road is paved with gold.



You know, it took me a while to discover things long forgotten. I've been down the rabbit hole for so long that I had almost forgotten what sunshine looked like. I bow to you as you are far ahead of where I was at your stage. You know what's best for you and I applaud that. You are my inspiration, ma'am.


Good on ya for not responding. I find that sometimes they do that to keep the "friend" noose on us. You are finding your way!

Thank you for the kind words. I won't reveal much on here but its not looking good. And then there were the unwise words the ex used. Good times. But thank you again, my friend.

love1st - where is this letter? Not that i want to cry, but it sounds like something interesting.

Hello love1st,

I'm so sorry for the situation you are in.

I'm also very sorry for the loss of your dad.

Focusing all of your time, effort and energy on yourself and your precious son is key right now. What are you doing for fun/GAL?

Knowing what to do and what not to do at this point is crucial. Feel free to give me a call at 303-444-7004 to discuss how we can best help you determine what to do next.

Cristy

Resource Coordinator
The Divorce Busting Center
303-444-7004