Does this go away with time? I hope so because it's affecting my sanity and my business.
jkr...does what exactly go away with time? The WAS revising of history or being obsessed with the situation?
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
Sure it does. When you stop having M/R talks and you don't try to get her to see it from your perspective. Don't give her a reason to shoot you with nonsense. It will make it difficult to shoot an unarmed man. Otherwise, you will hear the most ridiculous things. Many of them won't even make any sense and you'll wonder WTH happened to her memory.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
I agree with that. How do you recommend I proceed at this point. She is wanting me to sign settlement by Friday, or she is scheduling a temporary hearing. Which is fine. Should I just sign and get it over with, or not sign, and wait on hearing while I continue dbing?
I agree with that. How do you recommend I proceed at this point. She is wanting me to sign settlement by Friday, or she is scheduling a temporary hearing. Which is fine. Should I just sign and get it over with, or not sign, and wait on hearing while I continue dbing?
What are the pros and cons of signing vs going to a hearing? You mentioned that her proposal is fair. Is it possible that it might shift more to her favor if you go to a hearing?
You will continue to DB whether you sign the settle or not. The legal aspect is independent of you working on yourself or trying to save your M.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
Signing would be giving her what she wants. I guess I'm having a hard time accepting that I will be divorced shortly after I sign it. Im probably just postponing the inevitable, short of a miracle. I don't want to give up, divorced or not.
"YOU did not break your wife and YOU can not FIX this or her.". I copied this from one of Cadets post on another thread. I bet my WAW has said that to me 10 times. Any reason she would say that....almost like she has been on here.
Signing would be giving her what she wants. I guess I'm having a hard time accepting that I will be divorced shortly after I sign it. Im probably just postponing the inevitable, short of a miracle. I don't want to give up, divorced or not.
You get to choose when to give up. For me, when I gave up is when my sitch shifted.
Curious to know how long is the D process in your state?
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
W always says she just wants to get along and co-parent, yet she criticizes everything i try to do.She is usually rude and cold, or asks why?, when i ask her a question. IMhere, did your wife re-write your whole marital history too?
Yes, and from what I've read from others it is typical behavior and reading from the script..