Well she finally got me to give up on our marriage, she left to party for the night, and I don't think I want someone in my life like that, she doesn't treat me right, and I can't keep living in the past, trying to make things right,,, I'm ready to move on
Well she finally got me to give up on our marriage, she left to party for the night, and I don't think I want someone in my life like that, she doesn't treat me right, and I can't keep living in the past, trying to make things right,,, I'm ready to move on
You seem to have given up pretty easily. You're throwing in the towel because she went to a party? Is your M worth not fighting for because of that?
Me: 48 y/o W: 47 y/o Together: > 20 yrs BD: Dec '15, then S 2nd BD: Mar '16, then I filed for D April '16: started piecing
Just keep POSTING and one other bit of advice from Wonka that I totally agree with.
Originally Posted By: Wonka
Get DR/DB book. Keep this to yourself. DO NOT share this book or this site at all with your spouse. It is your playbook and not to be shared with the "opposing" team.
It is important to clear the search/browsing history from your computer on a daily basis to prevent the possibility for your WAS to stumble on the DB site and discover your posts here on DB. Erasing the search history will protect your posts and you as well.
We have seen too many Marriages blow up in pieces after the WAS discovers the DB site or DR book. Why is that? It is because the WAS thinks, erroneously I might add, that you are "manipulating" them back into the M.
Keep the DR book and DB site very close to your vest.
So you're saying that you were an untrustworthy alcoholic for years and she stayed with you. Then you recently broke her trust and lied about it. And you flip things around saying that you "tried" and that she is the problem.
Just because you changed doesn't mean that she has to believe you automatically. The OP is the person who she CAN trust in because of your bad track record.
You haven't actually tried anything. You were reacting. If you want to save your M (and believe me, it can be), you have to take REAL ownership for what you did and start studying the DB/DR books. We have all gone through what you have. It will take patience and understanding. Things that addicts often have a short supply of. But it is not impossible. That depends on the kind of man you are.
Is she worth fighting for after she stayed by your side when you were at your lowest?
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
Thank you for your answers, I'm going to to do my best to to show her that I'm the man she fell in love with, I'm going to start reading the book, this been going on for some years now
I'm in the same boat mate,but a little further on I think,I have just turned away ATM not spoke since July,letting her get on with it causing carnage on her way,not caring about any one or anything thing,I've been there for her holding her hand for 4 years,trying to help and fix her to no avail,
Me 56 w52 M30 years 4x adult kids W dad died/11 W wanted d 03/12 In-house sep 03/12 D 2014 I pushed W Left on 02/16 I pushed Pa on 07/16 Nc after 07/16 W Cakeating 15to16 Me doormat 12to16 Limbo 12to16
