I totally appreciate the fact that everyone here cares so much about the well-being of one another. It is truly comforting to know that we are all going thru the same chit, but are at different stops on the journey. It helps to know that you are not alone in all of this. Our friends and family see that we are battling something, but they have no real clue as to the depth of the pain and confusion that we are dealing with.
I agree, it has helped me as well to hear other people's stories to see I am not alone. I met up with a friend who is going through the same thing and it's just so crazy on how the scripts are the same. No one really understands unless you have gone through this, I am also thankful for having a place to talk to others who get it.
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Last night I made the decision not to go to a party thrown by my FIL for his extended family. I was invited by them, but the last week has been an emotional roller coaster. My oldest said that it was a good time.
I miss alot of them, but she has fired me from being her husband and has to realize that things will be different from now on. I did the family Christmas for me and the kids, but that is done for 2016.
Not sure what the kids and I will do for New Years Eve, but I'd like to do something with them. My oldest has plans, but the 10/14 yo haven't given me any ideas. Does anyone have kid friendly ideas?
I sure hope I can find my peace before I start the year. A friend of mine made a comment the other day that he was surprised that I wasn't mad. While I admit that I could easily be mad ad this whole sitch, I asked him what good would that do. I told him, that if by the grace of God she came to realize that she wanted to come home...would my being mad make that easier or harder. He said he got it, but didn't understand it. Maybe by me realizing that her "crisis" is kind of out of her control, it helps me not be mad at her...frustrated yes, but not mad.
Me 49 W46 T25 M22 S22 D18 S13 W had EA Apr-Jul 2016 Dropped Bomb 7/9/16 ILYBINILWYA HER DIVORCE IS FINAL...8/18/17 Dropping the rope to SURVIVE & THRIVE!!!
I don't like the fact that these emotions come and go as they do. It is all I can do not to call her and tell her to come home, but that is not what I'm suppose to do. It is hard to wake up daily without her by my side. It is hard to go to bed at night without watching her sleep next to me. It is difficult to wake up every morning knowing that the contact with her will be only if she calls regarding something for the kids.
They are so much better at DB'ing than we are. They are able to shut us out of their lives with such ease...or at least it looks easy from where I sit.
Why can't it be like in her silly romance novels or romantic comedies where the couple is separated and thru a series of crazy events they find themselves back together. She reads those books and watches those movies like they are going out of style, yet she hasn't had a romantic bone in her body. Not to mention if I'd ever try something, she'd call me cheesy.
I'm just venting...going to happy hour with two friends tonight. Both have gone thru D...one wife was a raging alcoholic and the other believes was going thru a MLC...she left him and her kids and never looked back. That is a much worse case than my sitch, but stinks nonetheless.
Me 49 W46 T25 M22 S22 D18 S13 W had EA Apr-Jul 2016 Dropped Bomb 7/9/16 ILYBINILWYA HER DIVORCE IS FINAL...8/18/17 Dropping the rope to SURVIVE & THRIVE!!!
Not sure what the kids and I will do for New Years Eve, but I'd like to do something with them. My oldest has plans, but the 10/14 yo haven't given me any ideas. Does anyone have kid friendly ideas?
Board games, unhealthy snacks and then some sort of sparkling drink to toast with.
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
Thanks AP...anything to keep us all in the same room together. I'm sure they will both pile up in my room to sleep. They are awesome. The oldest will fend for himself in his room, but that is OK.
Football and meat on the smoker for Sunday equals an awesome day.
Me 49 W46 T25 M22 S22 D18 S13 W had EA Apr-Jul 2016 Dropped Bomb 7/9/16 ILYBINILWYA HER DIVORCE IS FINAL...8/18/17 Dropping the rope to SURVIVE & THRIVE!!!
They are so much better at DB'ing than we are. They are able to shut us out of their lives with such ease...or at least it looks easy from where I sit.
This is an easy one. The fact it seems so much easier for them is that they are at least a year and half ahead of you. The BD for you was not BD for her. She started living it up at least a year and half ago. If you think about it, you should be able to spot some unusual details in retrospective.
The emotions are tough ... but if you did not have them it would probably be more alarming no? Understand they will come in cycles, and intensity but over time they will decrease the more you begin to grow/heal and deal with them.
