Quote: OMG, is this place turning into e-bay? Second hand sex paraphanalia? EEEEEEWWWWWWWWW
Actually...it's never made it out of the box. Got it based on some feedback from my sex therapist. WAW totally got pissed about it...and I'm the LD one?
The cat likes to climb up on the box. I joke to myself that its the only p*#$y the liberator has had on it....
"The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step." – Lao Tzu
I think everyone has said something that resonated with me today... just needed to get some perspective about it!
I do think I was too 'goal' oriented... but I dreadfully hate being 'left in the lurch'! I guess the goal for me is an orgasm... can you blame me?!
I do think now that I was perhaps a bit preocupied about the fact that it had to be 'just so' for us both, and that may have come (pardon the pun!) into play! I do recall my concentration being off at times... I also rushed into the 'main event' too quickly... didn't give myself time to 'warm up'. If Jupiter is in the right orbit, and the stars are lined up just so, it's a piece of cake. Otherwise, it takes some work!!!
I think that after looking at it again, I would definitely try for a position change next time. I'm also going to spring for some good lubricant, and I'm going to give myself more time to relax and enjoy... foreplay would probably have solved some of the problem. I know that if I'm already feeling like I'm going to explode from the foreplay, the rest is a piece of cake.
Hey Jen - I'm late to this thread but just want to let you know you're not alone. I often have trouble reaching the big "O", especially in certain positions. And sometimes, you're right, it's just hormonal for us gals. The most important thing, as DBR said, is that your H did initiate and believe me that was a HUGE step for him. Be sure to tell him today how much you enjoyed the experience and how good/sexy it made you feel when he initiated. By responding positively, believe me, you provided a HUGE boost to his sexual self-confidence.
_________________________ I'm also going to spring for some good lubricant, and I'm going to give myself more time to relax and enjoy... foreplay would probably have solved some of the problem. ________________________
Jen, You can find Astroglide at Walmart and Target (probably at most any drug store also). Of everything my husband and I have tried, it's the one that feels most natural unlike the heavier greasy feeling ones.
Even if you're on the right track, you'll get run over if you just sit there. Will Rogers
To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken. C. S. Lewis
You know, if I were your husband, just reading what you posted would be very reassuring. You are clear that you care about the relationship, that you understand what went wrong, that it wasn't really his fault (and if he's like me, he'll keep wondering whether maybe it was until you tell him that it wasn't, even if he confidently asserts that it wasn't - that's a defensive thing).
Perhaps write him a note based on what you wrote here, but adapted for the slightly different audience?
