My second post never showed up...that prayer is from Charles in the prayer circle. Gotta give credit where credit is due...it is the Catholic's prayer for marriages.
Anyone can use it though...you don't have to be Catholic LOL. I'm a nondenominational Christian born again who was born a Catholic.
I am resolved not to drink again. However, I did tell H it bugs me a lot when he drinks at home alone. It's not normal and I think he does it just to test me.
Otherwise, things are great. He is working hard on the deck. I just bought us each a used Trek recreational comfort bike...navigator 200's to be exact. Got a smoking deal on them. $250 a piece and they were $400 bikes last year. They are used, but only as rentals and so the upkeep was done on them regularly and competently.
I'm quite happy. We are going to start biking together now.
I'm sooooooo happy for you. It has to be hard him drinking, but you can handle it. Like T2 said, he is testing you. Stay your course!! You will be fine. Pattie
When you can't make a decision because you are torn between your heart and your head, listen to the half with the brain.
You go AKGal, glad to hear you have that strength. How's the smoking battle going?
Biking is a great couple time, I believe. I love to make it out to the woods with H and just admire the scenery. Planning to go this Sat a.m. before heading to the amusement park. It's wonderfully romantic, and great exercise.
I have quit smoking! I am no longer counting days or thinking that I haven't had a cigarette today...that's thinking like a wanna be smoker. So, positive self talk now...I am a non-smoker, non-drinker!
The bikes should go miles in bringing us together. I am very hopeful.
Gotta run...thanks for all your support...more after H leaves on Tuesday...
H has been trying hard to be very considerate and very nice. I have noticed the little things like him saying thank you and him being a bit more cuddly. He's mentioned the fact that he is not very good at communicating and he's also said he knows he doesn't compliment me enough.
Little things? Actually this is all huge for him.
My inlaws are still playing games and I'm sure badmouthing me....but I don't care. They did not come over as a couple to see the deck, although fil did come over to work on it with bil.
H told me he informed them of our status...back together...and that they were coming over together before leaving town. I would have bet my life that they didn't show and they didn't show. MIL sent some coffee cups over...perhaps a sort of peace offering? I don't really know. I think maybe because I helped H pick out her earrings, she wanted to send something back....she got garnet earrings for mother's day. H gave them to her early as he was going to work and she was leaving town. H may have told her I helped pick them out. I'm not sure.
I was not invited to go over to inlaws' house when H went over to take her the gift.
I did say something about it to H finally and that's what prompted him to "tell them about our status."
