Quote: baby steps that if nurtured could lead to a rekindled courtship
This was a bit convicting for me... I find it hard to acknowledge/nurture baby steps and yet try to remain aloof enough that I can be detached and not pursuing... something to think about.
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
pattie - thanks for the visit! LOL - you are truly a sparkle in my day!!!
kaw - i am honored once again my guy pal - i always treasure your visits to me. the insight of a man is totally priceless and appreciated. awww kaw, i am totally blushing. it's so hard for me to take compliments, but this is something i am working on, so i say THANK YOU ... my 'affirmations' that i do when i walk included the following today
i am one hot gorgeous chick that my husband desires and wants
that is where i want to be - and i am on my way!!! i do believe we are on our way to, like you said, a rekindled courtship. what a terrific way of looking at this kaw - a courtship!!! thanks for the visit - my day is wonderful!!! i just knew something wonderful was gonna happen today, you posted to me!!!
cathy - i miss chatting with you as well my friend, i get on every once in a while, but i don't see your name there anymore...let me know what you think about what i posted when you feel up to it ok?
holingon - i was lost with the whole "convicting"? explain please!!!
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well it has been a wonderful day so far. hubby and i have decided to get some things done that are badly needed around the house and some shopping that is best left to do without kids - so we are spending much time together
i have taken a few minutes to sit and rest up a bit, and he came in with something in his hand he wanted me to taste. in a quick instant i decided to 'flirt' and instead of taking my finger and dipping it into his hand, i stuck my tongue out and licked it
well he didn't seem to mind, in fact he came back a few minutes later and asked me to try something else!
Quote: awww kaw, i am totally blushing. it's so hard for me to take compliments, but this is something i am working on, so i say THANK YOU ... i just knew something wonderful was gonna happen today, you posted to me!!!
Now I'm flattered ... and will say "Thank You."
Quote: holingon - i was lost with the whole "convicting"? explain please!!!
I think the word she meant was "conflicting" (???) ... and it all depends on what stage the relationship is at. In Kitti's case, her H has made some personal growth and has turned his perspective around from not seeing much of a future in the M to the future with Kitti looks promising ... (just like during a courtship that is going well).
When a spouse's POV does take a positive shift, then our efforts to nurture this shift are no longer seen as pursuing but as encouraging. The trick, too, is keep the nurturing in balance and not to make it overbearing ... too much is just as damaging as not enough, so a little aloofness is still has its place.
Quote: in a quick instant i decided to 'flirt' ... well he didn't seem to mind, in fact he came back a few minutes later and asked me to try something else!
that is definitely a baby step - GO HUBBY
Case in point!! BRAVO ... GO KITTI ... of course, when you find something that works ... you gotta do more of it!!
you have given me warm fuzzies, can't comment on your comments right now (hubby seems to want my attention this afternoon ) but i wanted you to know, that you gave me warm fuzzies
convicting... as in stop you in your tracks, point a finger at self, that sort of thing... maybe an aha moment
It's a church thing...
So, when I stopped in my tracks I thought, am I supposed to be nurturing baby steps and how do I do that... but KAW you answered it for me... I have to wait on his POV which is what I thought
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
4.5 pounds and finger licking good. Sounds like big ole steps to me. Congratulations! And thanks for stopping by. By the way, I do believe you - I know that time will make everything better - it's just hard to accept in my heart what my mind knows.
I thank the gods of this BB every day for you Kitti! Totally
