I wasn't going to get him to watch her because he won't take her elsewhere and that would mean that I would have to go elsewhere. I've decided to just go to work.
34, xw33 M-10, T-18 2D (8 and 5) Ilybinilwy-1/16 EA/PA- 7/15-present (with my former best friend) Trial apartment-2/16 (also when she considers us separated) W moved out-8/16 W Filed 11/21/16 D final 1/30/17
Today was not one of the better days. He sends texts that are mean and cold and take away all hope. Says he doesn't want to be with me because he broke us and I won't give up the past. Not sure what to do from here.
Yesterday was the first overnight I've had away from DD18(special needs). I did some GAL things. Took DD20 out and then went out for coffee with a friend. After that we texted until I could sleep. Received some texts from with updates on DD I was polite but aloof. He then asked me if I had someone over and I ignored. Got up and did some GAL things. I actually had a moment today where I thought, "Wow! I feel happy!" It's fleeting though.
Cycled back into sadness even though I did lots of GAL stuff today. WS seems to be enjoying his new life and I don't think he misses me at all. The reality that he is likely going to choose to file is hurting me a lot today. Definitely need to detach more.
Yes, the filing thing can hurt. I retained a lawyer and let her handle everything. I was never served; all the official stuff went to my lawyer and she responded on my behalf. That helped a lot.
One day, when my WW was dropping the boys off at my house she asked me if I knew that mediation was scheduled in two weeks. I told her that I knew about it. Then, she asked me if I was was going to be there. I told her, "Only if I have to be there, otherwise I'll let my lawyer handle it." For some reason those "lawyer" responses would always drive my WW nuts.
Therapy helped but WS is really acting out tonight. DD18 has some money that needs to be put in her account. I am Power of Attorney. WS has no rights. He will not give me the money to deposit because he says I will spend it. I ha w never spent her money on anything other than her. We had agreed Last week that we would use some of it to pay for her glasses. Now I have to come up with an extra 400.00 this week to pay for them. I am so frustrated. My daughter told him he is choosing to act like an a$$hole(DD20)
It's a control thing for him. Forced interaction and a way for him to lash out.
34, xw33 M-10, T-18 2D (8 and 5) Ilybinilwy-1/16 EA/PA- 7/15-present (with my former best friend) Trial apartment-2/16 (also when she considers us separated) W moved out-8/16 W Filed 11/21/16 D final 1/30/17
