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Your doing great Cheesy, hang in there!

more temp checks or idk what my W is thinking. I guess i'm not sure where to go from here.
W texted last night asking if I need anything off the desktop computer. Eventually I replied no thanks.
This morning, W texted "Hey"
I dont know what her deal is. I don't know what she's going for, or why the sudden interest in texting me. All I know is we are not friends, I don't want to casually text her as a friend.
I cannot and will not put myself through that.
I'm getting anxious again. The not knowing is making me anxious again. Not as bad as in the begining for sure. I love her. I miss her. But My W does not want to join a M and is still seeing OW. There is nothing for me there.

Some things to remember:
I will keep it short and simple.
I will not immidiately reply because I'm busy having a cheesy life. (lol!)
I will be kind but not freindly.
I will not be the last to reply.

anything I'm missing here?
I appreciate feedback.

-where do I go from here?

freaking out over here. W just asked if we could talk...I called her, she said she'd rather not talk while I was at work. I told her I'd call her after work. Then she asked if we could meet in person instead...I asked while on the phone "is this bad?" i shouldn't have asked. But I did. W said "no just want to talk"

-slightly very much freaking out.

Breathe

Cheesyt breathe.

Go with an open mind, and be prepared to say enough for today.

V

You're good cheesyt. Get back to your balance. Don't forget all the hard work you've put in. Don't let your W get you off balance, regardless of what the talk is about.

Remember, you are AWESOME and you are STRONG! You know that and so do we. Let your W see that today!

I ditto what LT and Vanilla said...breathe...go in with an open mind, don't expect anything. Keep being your strong and awesome self!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Don't let her control your emotions, only you can do that!!

Hey Cheesy, I would have asked the same thing, I hate surprises and if it was bad I would rather not waste a trip and just be told over the phone!

I echo what everyone else said about you going in with an open mind, being strong and being awesome Cheesy!

well I guess I got anxious for nothing. W wanted to meet while she was in town for D's lesson. from 4-5, but I'm not off work until 5.
W- ok nvm then

So there's that. I didn't reply after that.
I'm assuming she will reach out again. No word about anything else just yet.
On a note, W sounded sweet on the phone. Prior to Sat W always sounded angry. W also stopped with all the periods. after. every. word.

I'm going to use this time to prepare and go into this with an open positive mind. and breath. and just be prepared to get served D papers, but also prepare to have not important talk, and also an important R talk. I'm obviously hoping for a R talk, in our Marriage's favor. But I will not get my hopes up. Calm, cool and collected.

I have no gal tonight. Just dinner as usually with the "family" meaning Roommate & Roommate's BF (Girls are on vacation with their dad) We've developed a nice little system and we all take turns cooking for all. It's funny how W thinks I'm out and about moving on. I come home every day for dinner with the "Fam" and generally just hang out there, By choice of course. I do have gal. Running on my lunch or with my running group, Drinks with different friends, or football & soccer. There's a soccer game tonight so I'll watch that on my new big screen. (Oh I bought a big tv. My 32inch was not cutting it. movie nights with the R & RBF did drive this but I wanted one)

That's about it.

-will focus on cheesyt.

Gah! I hope you didn't get too anxious Cheesy, unlike me! I don't think I have any fingernails left!!!

If it is really important she will reach out to you again so in the meantime carry on being the awesome Cheesy that you are!

Love that you and your housemates have dinner as a family, so cute!

Well W is adamant on talking. Texted me last night asking if she could call me after she put D to bed. After 8pm…didn’t get a call until 10pm. I did not answer as it was my bed time. W texted
W – sorry, guess you’re asleep already…I’d like to talk to you…please let me know when a good time would be. Good night..
I replied this morning – I’ll give you a call in the evening today.

W then asked if I had changed something to the cell phone plan cus her phone won’t connect to the network. We had a small conversation on this. W told me her phone broke last night and she had a new one that was working fine last night and now today it wouldn’t work. I’m assuming that’s why she didn’t call last night. At any rate, she concluded with –let me know when you want to call..I’d like to chat away from D.
And I told her I’d call her tonight.

Since W doesn’t mind it being a phone conversation, I’m thinking I’m not getting served with D papers just yet. Nervous, but ready. I’m hopeful…Idk to what but I’m hopeful.

Luckily if tonight’s conversation goes south, I have an IC appointment tomorrow morning. So I’ll have that to level me out.

Thank you everyone for your kind words of encouragement!!!!

-trying to stay calm cool and collected.