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I think that only you can decide that. I will say though that I wouldn't make any long term decisions because of what may be temporary feelings. Take a little time and process everything before you make that kind of move. I understand it is frustrating but do your best to not let his actions get to you. Hang in there and know that you'll be OK no matter what.

Thanks, BillyHo. I'm just frustrated. I feel like he sending such mixed messages but maybe I am just imagining it because I want it to be so. I feel so much better when I don't talk to him and yet, I keep communicating. As I communicate with him, I start believing his actions are my fault. I have to stop this madness.

He knows he has you on that sort of a yo-yo, and he's acting the part. As hard as it is, pull back. Way back. You will feel better, as counter-intuitive as that seems and feels.

Jruss is right on. The less interaction you have with him right now the better off you will be. If you look at it as from the outside looking in (easier said than done) you can see that talking with him only upsets you. Do yourself a favor and focus on you. Do something that makes Molly happy. You deserve it. What you don't deserve is to be hurt by his actions.

Hang in there. We are here for you ; )

Molly....really?!

Your highs are high and your lows are lows. You do not need to think about filing or anything about that right now. Your Dday was like less than a month ago. Even if you started that day, I doubt you would be nearly beady after working the process. Don't let your emotions lead you to horrible rash decisions.

Detach.

Day #5 was three weeks ago. #5!

I borrowed the money for a lawyer today. That doesn't mean I have to file right now. It's just a safety net. WS and I do not have joint accounts and he has decided that he doesn't want to pay. I may not have a choice.

Is there such a thing as legal separation where you are?

There is but it's not required if there is infidelity. Normally, you have to be legally separated for a year but in my case, we only have to be separated for 30 days.

Well what I'm saying is that if u can legally separate it's not a full fledge divorce but can still hold him accountable

Either way would definitely mean the end. I know him well enough to know he would just give up but I feel stuck between a rock and a hard place. I don't even know if I should be hopeful anymore.