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I don't know if it makes any difference or. It but I did notice things started coming to a head when she started the progesterone. She's scheduled for a hysterectomy next month. The plan is to leave her ovaries and get her off the progesterone

I did not give it as much as my instincts wanted me to. She's real mad now. I'm afraid she'll try to get some from our son. He's very angry at her but she's his mom. What should I say to him. FYI he told me not to give her more when I ha s in the past.

Certain drugs can affect behavior but honestly that's just mood swings, fatigue, irritability, etc. Don't for a second consider blaming infidelity on the side effects of a medication.

No I don't blame it on the meds. Just wondering if maybe it contributed to the problems.

No, her wayward thinking is what did this. No med can explain away her actions. If she wants a divorce then she can make all the moves to get it done, including supporting her own self financially. You can show your son good boundaries by letting them know you have decided to respect yourself and will not be giving money to your WW. Your son can choose whether or not he will give money to her but your actions can be compassionate without being a doormat.

Don't lift one finger to aid her in running from her family. Make your home and life one that is appealing. Return to the person you were when you met her, most likely you were strong, confident and happy. Have you read Divorce Remedy?

Don't give her anything. She said she wasn't going to choose between her BF and her family, so make the choice yourself. Have you picked up DB or DR? What have you been doing to get yourself better?

Just started reading Divorce Busting last night. I've realized a lot of my faults like lack of patience and not only how I listen but how I communicate also. I know its an older book but I read Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus. I wish I had read it 20 years ago. It was us to the letter. I've quit being "lazy" Truth is i can't stand to sit still now. I used to watch a couple of hours of TV a night. Now I may watch that a week and its usually just for background noise. I've started reading a lot. I used to hate reading. I've also gotten a lot closer to family and friends, especially my kids. You never know how many people care about you until something like this happens. I have a great support group although some of them are biased. I've gotten closer to God. I know all of this sounds typical for someone in my shoes but I'm taking it all serious. I'm also more concerned with my appeatance. My daughter and I went shopping and she helped me pick out some new pants. I probably haven't been shopping for myself in prob 15 years. My daughter's trying to get me more "in style" which is something I've never been good at.

I'm definatrly trying NOT to make the divorce easy. When I refused to give her money today she started getting hateful telling me how we can get this done so much sooner and cheaper if we share a lawyer. I have my own and have instructed him to wait as long as he can to reply to the divorce action. And we also had some changes to what they were requesting, I.e..he put in that SHE should PAY me child support. I don't really want it but shoes her daughter to and she should carry some trsponsibility, which she isn't right now. Thoughts?

Don't lift a finger toward D from your end. If she wants it she can do the heavy lifting. 180. Get busy living. Do stuff. Be unavailable for every little thing she's bugging you about.

This is tearing up our family. She promised our daughter she'd talk to her or see her every day. She said she would keep taking her to school. It didn't take long for that to stop happening half of the time. Now the falls have turned into getting a text once a day and today no contact at all. Someone explain to me how a parent can break a 15-16 year old daughters heart.