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Actually I've been a paramedic since 1987 so... Crap that's a long time. Although no longer active. Still have my stethoscope though.

How is it life is going so fast! Have now been divorced for 10 years as of a few days ago. Have not been in love since. Last date was a couple months ago. Last cruise was about five years ago.

Okay now I'm getting depressed so time to think about something else.

I'll call or text V tonight and say hi. Doubt we'll be going on a cruise but at least perhaps can figure out our next date. Honestly I'm pretty sure it could be thus weekend if we didn't live 4 states away from each other. Not like either of us can do a 20 hour round trip for a Saturday night out.

Don't laugh, but my friend and I had done speed dating once. Why not we said? I actually got a date out of it. He was a pretty cool guy, but younger than me and our maturity levels didn't match.

But it was kind of a fun experience!

DonH,

If you don't call her tonight, I'm going to invite you to go skinny dipping with me. Afterward we can have a pint of ale and some spotted dick. I'm hoping that's enough motivation to get you to make that call.

I've always wanted to do speed dating - just for the fun of it. I have a female friend that wanted to go as well. We were just never able to find anyone or any place offering or hosting it. I'd go in a heartbeat if there was. I think that would be so much fun!

Doodler I'm not even sure how to respond but I am now a little scared - so that part worked. Skinny dipping with another guy? Among my already complex personality traits have I mentioned I'm A bit homophobic as well? TMI?

DonH,

That's perfect! This evening when you pick up the phone to make that call, if there's any hesitation, then just remind yourself, "skinny dipping with doodler..." Make that call and we'll both be glad you did.

My one and only on line dating story:

Cute guy, great chat.

Coffee went well.

Supper went OK too.

We went to a film.

Then late dinner.

Conversation, wine, cheeeeeeeeeese and chat

Coffee at my place I thought.

Nearly..........

Then he said it

"You know V, if I were with you I would not need prostitutes"

Then excuse me need the loo, out the back dooroom, V is gone.

Then a text from my date "I was joking".

Complete NC from V.

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No more online dating from me.


V

Hmmmmmm coffee at your place after a first date with a stranger from online? Glad he saved you from yourself there. Just sayin.

No Don that was date 4.

Date 1 Lunchtime coffee
Date 2 Supper snack
DATE 3 film
Date 4 Dinner

Just to clarify and I had chatted online, then on the phone then by Skype then dates 1, 2, 3 and 4

V

....and I just realized how I found that to be hilarious instead of alarming (first date alarming, 4th date, funny). I really should have found that to be alarming on any date.

Oh lord. I should NOT be online dating.

DonH,

I hope you made that call last night? I'm fairly certain you don't want to see doodler naked with a pint of ale in one hand and spotted dick in the other.