Psysarah, that's the way I note things too. It does help to be detached somewhat so the changes in behaviour don't hurt me or change my moods. And yes a real 2*4 or a 4*4 may be even better.
Grl, I listened and validated, I was on the lookout for potential spew that may help me. But it was all about him, I even hinted towards him that we both contributed to where we are now. But he had nothing negative to say about me. He kept saying this is about him and his feelings, that I hadn't done wrong and was a good wife and that I was beautiful and a good person. A 180 of mine has been to closely listen and validate, he would complain before that a talk would end in me not listening to him, or interrupting it- or making it about me. So to sit and stfu and just listen and validate is a 180 of mine.
Haha Zeus that's so funny! What a great idea, I shall locate a horse and get my chain mail out later on. I may throw a rose at him too, maybe throw my hankie down to him to let him know he is mine..
In the meantime, a lovely warm sunny day, so I intend to make the most of it, packed up the car and taking S on a day trip, my folks are coming along too, so it should be a nice day out of the house. Fresh air works wonders on the soul, as does seeing my S enjoying himself. Sometimes I'm not in the mood to drag myself out, wether it's that I physically feel under the weather, or I'm just feeling a tad withdrawn. I always find getting myself out and about really does help- and I'm always glad at the end of the day that I was productive. I'm not really a fan of a pity party or allowing someone to make me question my worth. Think it's new thread time- so I'll meet y'all over there
