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Hi my friends,

It is all very good advice. I'll definitely pay for the home inspector, the one we used for our townhome was great. There are 3 levels of units in the condos. I would not get a top floor, so no worries about a roof. I think I'll find out this week if I can prequalify for a mortgage this week.

So. I went to the party, had a fantastic time. exNG was there with his D. When she saw me she just ran over an hugged me so hard for so long. It took everything I had to hold back my tears. Her and I picked up where we left off. I was her go-to adult. I brushed her hair when she got out of the pool, found her towel for her, she shared her food with me. She hugged me so hard goodbye and she says to me "Please say hi to D9 for me.

As for exNG, I'm still processing those feelings. The dams of tears broke as I got into my car to come back home today. It was just so weird. He just didn't know what to do basically. I can get into the details, but I'm not going to.

As I spent time with his friends, well, my friends also now, and spending time with his little girl, I realize there were many gifts to be taken from this relationship even if ended the way it did.

More when I'm not so emotional

Ginger,

I'm so glad you went and had a great time. I think it's so touching that his D was there and she hung out w/you. You two have a very special bond and I hope it continues.

Good luck on the prequalification process. I hope and pray that you qualify and can find a home that you like.

I do hope that your ankle is doing much better.

Thanks Job. I got pretty emotional seeing her. It may be the last time I do. It tears me apart.

Last year, I drove home from this party saying "this is so weird, I just know I'm going to fall in love with this man" This year I pretty much cried most of the way home.

I'll get over it. It just hurts. But I still wouldn't trade it for all the gifts I gained from our time together.

I think you missed the point. My point is, if the roof is due to be replaced, and the homeowners association does not have enough money put away for roof replacement, they will charge ALL the owners extra fees to pay for the roof replacement. It's a way to check the financial well-being of the homeowners association, to see if they've been keeping up with or planning for roof replacement appropriately.

Just have to say this G -- you were kind, open, charming, willing to forgive and forget (well sort of). And you looked awesome! ExNG was awkward and weird, despite your generosity and warmth towards his daughter. You're a class act. ExNG is an ass, and his new GF must be so insecure to text so much. Just sayin'

Hi Ginger, just stopping by to say hello. The party sounds like it went as well as could be expected. It's sweet that you still have a connection with the daughter. Hugs to you, my friend.
(((Ginger)))

Thanks Linda. I tried. He was acting so awkward, right? he seems so not himself, unless that was because of me. We had one of the most natural connections, but he made sure to keep the distance and make sure we wouldn't. Respectful of the GF I guess.

It will always sting the way he replaced me immediately. I wish no hurt or harm, only that he finds his real happiness.

As for that little girl she's always going to have a very special place in my heart. so will he, but him, he needs to be tucked very far away.

Still all puffy eyes and back to work. Many distractions this week. My heart just feels like it's in my feet and I don't know why.

I'm a former realtor. You should ask for a copy of the association's financial records and plans and let an accountant take a look. You want to avoid a big hike in fees due to something happening.

Bring replaced immediately only says something about how he treats people and his fear of being alone, it's not in any way a reflection on your value or qualities.