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Dinner plans changed again. I'm going to go up to SIL/BIL house and have dinner and play with my nieces after work.

For one paranoid second I did wonder if this was some ridiculous movie set up where they invite us both to dinner and don't tell us...

I don't think that's that case, just my paranoia. lol

Dinner last night went really well. I got there a little early and as usual dinner was delayed lol.

I played with my nieces who are 4 and almost 2. We played chase (basically the older one just likes to chase you around the house, kind of like tag) and hide and seek and the little one wanted me to read her like 20 books and we watched the older ones favorite show and she told me about her school, she starts school next week! And they love to have their pictures taken so we took some selfies lol.

I talked to my SIL and she said just what BIL said that no one has really seen or heard from her. She also said something about how when I'm over there I actually interact with and play with the kids and when W was going over there she kind of just sat there. She also told me that she told my W that she doesn't support her decision to leave me or to be with the ow but she also told her "it doesn't matter if people support you you can do what you want" which is technically true but I still wish she had maybe not said that part but oh well.

She invited me to the younger ones b-day and thanksgiving and said she knows my W will throw a fit but that holidays aren't about my W and she can choose not to come if she wants. the little ones b-day is hard, I think her party is going to be on my b-day which is fine and I want to go but I don't trust my W to not bring ow and that would be sh!tty to have to meet her on my b-day. But I've determined in my head if I ever do meet her someday I am going to be nice. It isn't entirely her fault and she didn't make my W do what she's doing. Plus she's young and in over her head and probably was not prepared to date a married woman... That's the other thing my SIL said about ow she said "she's nice. She's a child. She's a nice child." basically reinforcing what everyone else I know has said about her...

It breaks my heart a little because the older one is old enough to remember that she usually sees W and I together so she always is asking where she is... I just feel sad for her, she doesn't understand and I hate that this is even impacting her little 4 yo world.

I did give my W that letter on Tuesday and I told her it was in the bag with her mail and she could read it or not that there was no pressure. I'm trying to keep my expectations low. I don't even really expect her to read it, let alone actually try to talk to me at all about what it says. I haven't heard anything from her since she left the house that day.

Overall, I feel pretty good still. I am a little sad, mostly for my IL's and especially for my nieces, they just don't understand and that hurts me...

The mediator we are using just called to confirm the date.

It's in 3 weeks.

Not 5 minutes later W texted me to say she heard from the mediation place and "did I hear the correct date of x/x?"

Seriously... why? I got the exact same phone call she did and I heard it just fine...

Because she is a WW....lol

I say ignore her text. she spoke to a live person. I don't know what she needs to "verify". She can call the person back if she didn't hear correctly.

Definitely ignore text! She either heard it and is messing with you, or she didn't, and she can call the office back, like a single adult would do.

I agree with Cheeyst and JRuss! She can do it herself!!

Temp checking....

Let's move along, nothing to look at my friends.

lol Wonka.

I don't plan to respond. Not much new going on over here today.

Work is kicking my butt. Thinking about taking a run when I get out in a little bit just to get my mind off things and then probably just relax.

I didn't even realize I've been GAL like a crazy person this week and I need a break!

So after not responding to the text about the mediation date yesterday morning I am now getting a text that says "hey can you please respond to me?"

I assume that I would also ignore this?