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Many fall in love with people doing time. I believe Charles Manson had dozens of proposals. I remember this phenomenon being thought in one of my forensic courses. Usually it is a female who wants to live vicariously through that persons criminal behavior. All I can remember. Lol

And that brings me to a funny story I may have told. About a year after the separation, I was watching TV and I get a collect call from Atlantic County Correction Facility from "BOB" asking if I would accept the call. I told my coworker about this the next day, and I said to her " I know I've been asking God to send me a guy, but I think he misunderstood!" She was very religious and seriously said "That was probably your chance, Ginger, and you missed it! He repented for his sins and God sent him to you!"

I've been clearer in my prayers since then

Lmao

Thanks for the laughs Maybell. Ginger and others. I too have been praying for God to put someone in my path. I had better clarify just in case. For now I'm just trying to figure out what the DB principle would be to apply dealing with Steven Avery having more women responding to him than I have responding to me on Match! Perhaps I need to update my profile again and add some prison talk?

On a true and honest bright side, I've been hearing more and more from the widow I met a year ago. She is clearly interested and sees how much we have in common. I know we'd at least do a few more dates if she didn't live 10 hours away. That said we are trying to line up some sort of weekend get together - which is the only practical way but I'm sure is scary for any woman on the third date let alone a widow who married her college sweetheart and dated very little. Both of us are clearly interested but I really bet we are also both think g, what if a weekend doesn't go as well as the first 3 to 5 hour dates did? That can be a really long weekend. Nothing is ever easy, is it?

A ship is safe in harbor, but that isn't what a ship is made for, Don.

I think you are going to have To explain that as I don't get it. If you're saying I'm playing it safe, I'm not the one hesitating - she is. I just can sort of understand why. People here are afraid to go on a local date. Imagine not having dated in 25+ years and considering spending a weekend with someone you are just getting to know. So I can understand her hesitance. I on the other hand would do it.

Was that your point? If not, perhaps you can elaborate.

DonH,

I think trumpet is saying that you and the widow should go on a short cruise together with separate, but adjoining, rooms.

He's a genius. Bon voyage!

Lol actually tried that already! We had met a year ago this past weekend when I happened to be in her hometown with s band I traveled there with. Very off the oath if where I visit or perform. We kept in touch and I had put together a cruise for someone who contracts my services. Even though 200 people were going, ok new none of them and could not find anyone to go with me. I floated the idea, no pun intended, but she was less interested back then and totally focused on the distance. Thing is, she did go on a four day cruise with her three kids as two were heading to college in a little while. The kicker is she woke up on the early am to go to the bathroom, lost her footing and broke her arm!

Not so genius in this instance.

DonH,

Give her a call. Tell her you'd like to go on a cruise with her. If she's concerned about getting hurt, like she did on her last cruise, then just tell her that you'd be happy to play doctor.

Go for it!

Take your stethoscope

V