Oh KAW....you made me laugh out loud....love the graphics!!! I'm gonna steal that sometime!
And Wonder, thanks for the words of encouragement....you both are great cheerleaders right now...don't want to get too hopeful, yet....y'know that ZERO expectation thing. Just appreciate the reminders and specifics of our DBing strategy.... (((((THANK YOU)))))
Not much new on the homefront. I guess I'm giving myself a bump!
Just talked with D, she will be having dinner with H tonight...he is in Seattle all week. Haven't heard from him since for a couple days.
I'm having some gf over tonight for pizza and wine....friends I love to laugh with. Looking forward to it. If H calls (he often does after being with our D) I plan to let his call go to VM. Afterall, I will be entertaining, right?!?
Laughter is the best medicine, if I go longer than a day or two without laughing then IT'S time to find something to laugh about...some days I can find lots to laugh about, it's keep me from crying.
I love to laugh, especially at myself!
Have a great time tonight and VM works for me too!!
Hey...time for me to catch you all up....at least anyone who's paying attention!! (kidding!!!)
Didn't hear much at all from H all week. He called once and talked with S. He called this morning and said he would like to come out as planned...11am, spend the day, have his birthday dinner with S and I. I said that would be fine....we had discussed this last Sunday. He came out, I was exercisng...he checked our dog (who had been slightly hit by a car yesterday....a whole nother scary story...but he is ok. Thank God...!!!). He found me in the basement on the tread, chatted, S came down, we all talked about the day...caught up. S left for his job, H asked me if I'd like to go out shopping a bit to Nike, then maybe hit some golf balls. I said that would be fine.
He came upstairs, after I showered, watched me dress and talked. We just caught up on weekly stuff. It was pleasant. He asked me once if I had anything to talk to him about...he sensed I did...so I said..."No, not really." Then realized I better not act quite so disstant. Just upbeat and friendly.
We went to the outlet mall, shopped some for his birthday and S's coming up. Then came home had a quick lunch. Just chatted like friends. Then went to the golf course to hit balls. He asked if I wanted to play 9 holes...just for fun. I said, sure...that sounds good. we have not played actual golf together in years....really years!!! I play with some gf, he plays at work events....thats all. We did ok...sometimes lousy...but nonetheless had a good time, like good friends.
On the way home we discussed dinner...what he wanted...cuz it was his B-day yesterday. I cooked a simple dinner...we opened his cards, gifts from S (not me) and then had champagne. He toasted me privately and said.."here's to good years ahead!" BTW...he had also said while in the car....hey if you buy the lotto ticket this week....33mil...we could go to Utah and and buy that cabin house in Park City we talk about. He said the lotto is Tues, we'll fly out Wed and do it! I said, "that's a good idea"
Just little things throughout the day...interesting. No affection...just talk.
He then asked me to come into the city for dinner this coming week. Asked me which night would be best for me. We discussed either Sun or Mon....based on daily plans. He later asked me to come in tomorrow afternoon, have an Italian dinner and take the train back the next A.M. The next morning???? He said, ya...our S can take care of the dog...what do you think? I said, ok...that might work out. I'l talk with S.
he also had asked earlier...if he could stay here tonight...in the guest room....cuz he wanted to drink wine, and relax tonight....not have to drive into the city. I said that would be fine.
Ok...my BB buds....is this piecing or what? He is initiating a ton....but in a respectful way. No cake eating or anything. Hmmmmm....staying in the city tomorrow....in his apt and all. Should be interesting.
he fell asleep on the couch just now...couldn't wait to let you all know.
Any tips for tomorrow? He will leave early in the morning, I will stay here....go to church...hang a while, then take the train in the city. He said he'd pick me up. It's kind of like real dating. Weird, but in a good way....cuz he's inching his way toward me....I can tell!!! ___/\o_____/\0____/\0____/\0 Not as good as KAW, but am working on it!
Thanks for checking up on me. Any advice, welcome!!
Quote: He toasted me privately and said.."here's to good years ahead!" BTW...he had also said while in the car....hey if you buy the lotto ticket this week....33mil...we could go to Utah and and buy that cabin house in Park City we talk about. He said the lotto is Tues, we'll fly out Wed and do it! I said, "that's a good idea"
The man is testing waters with you I'd say do whatever works, Mooka. If he wants to do the chasing, let him. Seems like your laid back stance is drawing him to you. GOOD STUFF!! Slowly
Just getting caught up with your last couple of weeks of activity. The one thing I noticed is that you're for the most ACTING FINE WITH THINGS JUST AS THEY ARE right now and not pressuring or talking about the M during this time where he appears to be "inching" closer as you say. He's initiating doing things with you on a more consistent basis and thats a good thing, guess you just see where it goes....NO EXPECTATIONS..
Off the record, I'd be a little wary of how accessible you make yourself to him when he throws all these dates at you. Don't always agree to his first choice, and once in awhile, instead of ALWAYS saying.."that sounds fine..", tell him..."you'll get back to him on that...", just to subtly let him know it is not lost on you that he has chosen to physically seperate and things aren't exactly the same because of that choice. Until it becomes clear that he is really "inching" his way back to you, versus "inching" his way towards being comfortable living downtown and spending time back at home whenever he feels like it, you should still maintain a little emotional arms length distance and keep whatever boundaries you have, up and running..
Other than that you're doing great and seeing benefits because you have RELIEVED PRESSURE off of him and he is now free to really think about what he wants..
Okay my BB friends....brace yourself....things ARE happening around here, the pace is picking up!!! Breath deep Mooka, remember NO EXPECTATIONS!!
Sunday H had breakfast and we talked some. Nothing big...just about how well Sat went. He then got out the train schedule and we talked about me coming in the city that afternoon. I said I was heading to church and then could come later in the day. He said, great...I'll pick you up at the train, we'll have dinner and why don't you spend the night. Our S could take care of the dog and hold the fort down.
I went to church, he drove into the city. After church I joined a friend, spontaneously, for brunch. H called my cell and asked where I was. I said, "Oh decided to go out to brunch with a friend." He said "are you still coming into the city?" I said yes, will get there later in the afternoon....wanted to get some things taken care of first. He then called me 3-4 more times...one went to VM...to review the logistics. (It cracked me up inside! )
I took the train in. He called me twice on the train to see how much longer. He met me and drove all around the city like a big tour guide...(I know the city some....but he was enjoying showing me around) Got to his apt...kind of wierd for me....but it was simple, nice, great views. I was cool, tho. We then went for a long walk....for over an hour and got some food. Had wine, great Chinese food, watched some TV and then went to bed. No affection....well until later. H gently cuddled, rubbed my back and said..."let's take things real slow, I never want to hurt you again." We kissed and were affectionate (I know Wiley...you're about to pound me with a 2x4!!) It was soo nice. This morning we exercised, he took me to the train, hug and kiss....and asked about coming out Fri and staying through Wed? I said, maybe....we'll talk later in the week. He also asked about the following week-ends out at our home....and then me staying with him in Seattle prior to our D's grad...a night in the hotel on our own, before the rest of the family arrives. I said, "maybe....that will work out."
H was more romantic, respectful, kind....offering me things as a guest, nicer than he has been in years. It was like a real date. Carefully taking each step. Hmmmmmm.
Gotta admit....I'm trying my hardest to DB...but he is PURSUEING, no doubt. I think in a way, this will be harder than ever from a DBing standpoint....trying not to let myself get lost in the romance.
BTW, I also saw a few self-help books in his apt...."4 Seasons of Man"...and some others. I do know I've evloved more than H....but he seems to be trying!
Yahoo. Still giving this to God....still staying centered spritually, emotionally, physically...socially...I think?!?
I'd say do whatever works, Mooka. If he wants to do the chasing, let him. Seems like your laid back stance is drawing him to you. GOOD STUFF!! Slowly 