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Hahaha....yep she is probably getting her tan on....

I'm not sure how much of a tan you can get on when you spend most of the day under and umbrella but it was definitely the perfect day to spend at the beach! Like I said, the fun doesn't stop there! Going out tonight for the first time since all of this started and I'm really excited.

Hahaha what? Umbrella?? I was in my pool all day because it is my last day of summer break...back to reality tomorrow...first day for teachers!! BLAH!!

Yes an umbrella!! My dad just went through radiation for skin cancer, soooo I'm being careful about the sun... Will keep you posted about tonight!

So I'm on my way out the door to meet up with my friends and my good friend we will call her A calls me. She and W work in the same building and they've ran into each other a few times over the last couple of weeks and A always says W is acting completely not herself.
So anyways, W went to see A today and was acting really weird I guess and really depressed and down. And started asking A how I was doing and stuff. And luckily A answered perfectly! She didn't say anything about me missing her or wanting to come back or anything! A just told my W that I was doing really, really well and was out doing things for myself and having a lot of fun making new friends. She also told my W that I had been really focused and driven lately and that I looked really really good. A even told her that I was on this trip and was having a ton of fun! And my W started crying.

Now I know this doesn't necessarily mean anything, and I really haven't gotten my hopes up at all about it. But it does make me feel like staying dark is working and that what I'm doing is working. Only time will tell. I know especially MLCers bounce back and forth a lot so like I said not getting my hopes up but it was still nice to hear.

Now off for my night out!

That sounds positive Maybs!!! Yes, don't get your hopes up because the WW is crazy...lol...have a great time!!!!!!!!!!

That always makes someone feel nice. As I was reading your post I was thinking "good, cry!!!!!" But in a like realize what you have not a mean type of way

Glad you enjoyed the..umbrella
Fun about Going out! I'm going out tomorrow dancing. to a L club with some of my teammates!

Let us know how that goes!!!!!!!

Yeah, it was an interesting conversation and not one I expected to be happening any time soon. But as I said only time will tell.

Going out was...interesting. To say the least. I ran into an ex while I was out, I haven't talked to this person in a long time because W was always jealous? or something of her. We just caught up a little and went about our business. it was nice being able to be out and forget about everything for a little bit. Unfortunately that conversation between my friend and W kept popping up in my mind. I'm really not getting my hopes up about it but I can't help but wonder what it all means. But I know that question will drive me nuts so I'm just going to start considering it as a small blip on the screen and we will see where time leads me.

Second day of vacation tomorrow, I'm excited but also miss my home and my comfy bed.

Glad you had a good time, I would have been thinking of the conversation your W had earlier with your friend...it is interesting but who knows with these WW.....have a good day of vacation, its always nice to go on vaca but great to be home in your own bed..

Nothing new to report really... Same old same, haven't talked to W in a little over 2 weeks, haven't seen her in 3.5 weeks.

The more I think about the conversation with my friend yesterday the more I feel like there's more than one thing it could have been....
1) it could have been genuine...but WW/MLCers are cray cray so it could have just been momentary
2)it could have just been fishing for information from my friend about me and how I'm doing
3) is there such a thing as a secondary temperature check??? She could have been looking for my friend to say I still miss her and want her to come home

The thing I find more interesting now than I did yesterday. Yesterday I mostly reported the emotional side of their conversation but she also mentioned being worried about the dogs... I think that was just a way to initiate talking about me.
She also mentioned that she wants me to have the house, which up until this point she has been telling everyone we are selling it, and she said that her lawyer told her it was a bad idea... but of course her lawyer is going to say that's a bad idea. It wouldn't be the best outcome for her client.
She also told A that the reason she hasn't been talking to me is because her L advised her not to... which I knew but I still don't really get. It seems like it would be better for us to be communicating and figuring out how we are going to divide things by speaking to each other. But again, I think this is a L thing. L wouldn't be getting paid as much if we are seeing a mediator or agreeing on how to split things on our own.

IDK. Like I said I'm chalking the emotional stuff up to a blip and a small sign that what I'm doing for me is having some sort of impact. But I am curious about this house stuff. I really want to keep the house and this is the first time I've heard of her saying that she wants me to have it too.

Day 2 vacation: woke up to bagpipes super early...why??? Planned on another beach day but it's pretty overcast so for now I'm just going to hang out at the house and relax and maybe hit up a craft show later!

I do have to say I'm surprised at how much easier it i now for me to go out and do these things alone. A few weeks ago I don't think I could have imagined going on this vacation alone and actually, mostly, enjoying it.