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Well, just confirmed that he has been away with her for the last 4 days. What do I do now? I have to stop fighting right?

You stop fighting when you're ready to stop fighting. I think it's pretty early to make any major decisions. Perhaps visiting a lawyer to see what your options are would be a good start. It doesn't hurt to be prepared and informed.

Keep focusing on you and your daughter. Do you work? Have you joined any groups with other moms and toddlers?

I teach first grade so I am extremely busy during the day, but having trouble focusing on my students right now. All I can think about is what he's doing. I know I need to focus on me and my daughter, but I am with her 100% of the time, and I feel like I do a really good job of putting her first. Here's what he says, "When I asked for this separation, I told you I wanted to see what life was like without you. I wanted to see if I would be happier not married. SO I'm taking 6 months to figure out what I want to do. I hope at the end of the 6 months, I can come back to you and we can start going to therapy and working on our marriage. But in the meantime, I need these 6 months for me" Is it crazy that I want to give him his time??

Ugh. He so much reminds me of my XH. And you so much remind me of me!

If you really want to give him this time, what are you going to do for yourself during this time?

so the time is up at the end of the month, but I know he's not gonna come back. The past 6 months have been great for me. Sad, but great. I've grown so much, and learned so much about myself. I've been an amazing mother to the best little girl in the world. But I'm ready to get on with fighting for my marriage. I've learned that I don't need him at all, but it doesn't mean I don't want him. I want him to see the value in our relationship though, and if he doesn't then he's really making the decision for both of us.

So the first 4 months of your separated time, you were living together. That makes it tough to see what life is like without the other person.

What are your plans for next month? How are you going to keep moving forward and becoming the best you can be?

We haven't lived together for the whole 6 months

And as far as improving me, I was diagnosed with a panic disorder when I was 8. Since my daughter has been born, I haven't had one panic attack. I am able to do anything I want, and I plan on just doing more!

Yes. This is crazy.
Why are you so content to be his plan B...or C?

So j file for divorce? I thought I was here so I didn't get divorced.