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Can someone tell me again which book I'm supposed to read first? DB, or DR?

read DR first...

Thanks T2, I was reading DB.

Blunt makes it perfectly clear, and makes more sense. Thanks.

DB is good, but I find DR much easier to get your head around.

I guess I need to learn not to make such a big deal out of things. Last night my wife came home from being out of town with her mother, and it was a complete 180 from the night before. She was cold, distant, and very irritable, and it was killing me. I think yall were right, I had set myself up for a big let down, because I felt and still feel like crap. She did tell me "bye" this morning on her way to work, so at least that is somewhat good, since she hadn't done that in awhile.

I've also been thinking that maybe it would be better if I moved out, it is so hard to see her and know that right now she feels nothing but anger and resentment for me. Last night she caught me "staring" at her and she said it bothered her, well all I could tell her was that I was staring because she is beautiful and I can't help myself sometimes. It's like I'm seeing her for the 1st time with out all of thecrap that was in my head, and I just realize how much I need her ( I didn't tell her this, just yall) and want her, and It hurts so bad that she doesn't feel the same way towards me.
She keeps telling me that she can't wait around for me to change, well, the way I see it, is that there is no "waiting" it's already happening and change is an on going process, it's never going to end.

Have a meeting in one minute, but wanted to say Do Not Move Out.

Cathy

Dustin,

Absolutely positively DO NOT MOVE OUT That is NOT the answer.

If you have to...FIND something to keep you busy when she's home...KEEP your eyes OFF her.

STOP looking forlorned and desperate...it is a major turn off to her.
T2

I know yall are right, and I will try to stop doing that. And as far as moving out, I guess I just wanted to hear that moving out is NOT the answer. I appreciate you two answering me. I guess I will stay here until I either get served D papers, or she asks me to move out. Thanks again guys. My PMA is in the crapper today.

My H told me that he feels pressure from me to decide what he wants. This is based on my looking into his eyes and staring at him. (He is quite good looking, who can blame me?)

It was hard, but I have learned to not look at him. I think perhaps I sometimes go to the opposite extreme and never look at him.

Definitely do not move out, just listen to what she is saying to you, it's valuable. She told you what she needs, give it to her. Stop pressuring her by doing those things (looking at her) and keep DBing.