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This is a bit tricky, because it hasn't been constant throughout our marriage. For example, there are a couple of years when kids were young that are kind of a blur of sleep exhaustion and I was also very "touched out."

Pre BD, I'd say I was more a once-a-week person and he preferred every other day.

Right now, we're intimate over 50% of the days. Oddly, I find that I miss it of we go more than a day in between. I didn't used to.

H is a great partner in other ways.

I do wonder if some of the distancer-pursuer dynamic got mixed up in this. Our early marriage was dominated by his family, and I didn't maintain my precious friends much. This is a new idea for me, but since so much time has passed, I don't know if my memory is accurate enough to really analyze this angle.

Andrew and EDF, thank you so much for taking time to post!

This is a very busy week, so it might be a day or two before I have time to respond to them in more detail, but I appreciate your contributions.

I'm glad I asked because this seems like a fairly small difference, in my book. Definitely not anything ***I*** would walk out of a good marriage for. I'm not saying you don't work on that difference, but come on!!! There are guys in this forum (myself included) who would contemplate a lot worse, just for the sake of keeping the marriage together for the kids.

I think your H is being ridiculously selfish for even contemplating walking away from your M for that small of a difference. I mean, if you're 25 and single? Fine, do whatever your penis tells you. But with kids still at home, you're gonna walk away because you only get laid once a week instead of every day? I'm sorry. Sick of parents being so self-centered.