Posting a new thread. I have been divorced 6 months now and have had no contact at all with my now ex-wife since first of year. We have no kids together. So was wondering when and how is a good way to get back in contact with her. I have never given up on our marriage even though she did. I probably asked this before but I miss her.
I think you should continue to not contact her.
Last month, you looked at her facebook page and that caused you pain. If she has any interest in talking to you, she will reach out to you!
What are you doing for yourself to keep moving forward? Are you involved with any clubs or activities?
She left me because I was not honest with her about things. Just wondering what is a good way to get back in contact with her. I mean I know how to. But don't know her situation if she is she is seeing someone or what her situation is.
If you reach out to her she will just see it as pursuing and it will hurt your long-term goal of reconciliation. It will make you look desperate, weak, and unattractive. It will drive her further away. You are legally divorced now so you need to carve out your own path, instead of clinging to the past. It's tough but it's the only way forward.
Me-LBH, 48 Spouse-WW, 48 Married for 19 years Son, 12 BD #1 - November 1998 (EA 7 months after wedding) BD #2 - November 2015 (same XBF EA) WW filed D February 2016 WW moved out April 2016
If you reach out to her she will just see it as pursuing and it will hurt your long-term goal of reconciliation. It will make you look desperate, weak, and unattractive. It will drive her further away. You are legally divorced now so you need to carve out your own path, instead of clinging to the past. It's tough but it's the only way forward.
Exactly....if you wish to ever work things out then you have to wait on her to contact you. Continue to work on yourself, and move forward. Notice i didn't say move on as that is your choice. One never knows what could happen. Good Luck!
I appreciate the responses. I have accomplished a lot since the divorce. I have 2 jobs, started my own business and lost 20 lbs. I am happy and can see a life on my own. But know it would be better with her. So what you are saying? It's up to her? Sort of up to chance?.....That maybe our paths will cross?
