Think I could have made matter worse! What should I do know!
When you go directly against the advice you are given, it usually does make matters worse. There's not much you can so about the letter. You cannot unwrite it.
Please don't do these things as a way of getting a positive reaction from her. You only hurt yourself. If it worked, don't you think we would be telling everyone to write emotional letters to their WW?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Think I could have made matter worse! What should I do know!
When you go directly against the advice you are given, it usually does make matters worse. There's not much you can so about the letter. You cannot unwrite it.
Please don't do these things as a way of getting a positive reaction from her. You only hurt yourself. If it worked, don't you think we would be telling everyone to write emotional letters to their WW?
I understand, just had a bad few days and backslides!
The update on the situation is that we are now not in the house together at any time, who ever has the children are in the house!
I'm finding the house as a big trigger and not sure what to do, as the house is up for sale and I'm not sure I can stay there until it's sold without cracking under the stess of it all! Ideally I think she should move out, but she will not!
WW still playing happy family and want to attend event as a family together for the sake of the children, I'm not sure that's is good for me!
Me: 40 W: 36 T21 M17 S12 D10 D10 ILYBNILWY EA happened. PA happened. June 2016 trying to piece our M and life's back together...
Ok, so we have received first offer on house, below asking price! W has asked to meet to discuss! My head is all over the place, accept offer and get on with the process or as my heart reject to try and slow things down!
Me: 40 W: 36 T21 M17 S12 D10 D10 ILYBNILWY EA happened. PA happened. June 2016 trying to piece our M and life's back together...
W keeps bang on about a showing a united front at children's event, both being there, what's united about split you family up for your AP!
Can't believe what I'm hearing!
Was thinking of going with this reply:- "In the circumstances, I don't think showing a united front is my priority, we aren't in a united relationship so really there is no need, it's going to be down to who has the children at the time, the children are just going to have to get use to things being different"
Me: 40 W: 36 T21 M17 S12 D10 D10 ILYBNILWY EA happened. PA happened. June 2016 trying to piece our M and life's back together...
I do get it, same thing with my W. After coming down on my W , i decided any family moment is a good moment. Its about the kids and i get to show the her the man that i am.
Most of the time at these things i am being more social and chatting with other people and if its my son's event make sure hes having the greatest time of his life. I am determined to have a good time and usually end up not spending the time with W at these family events.
Im not ignoring her, if she hangs around me or speaks to me im pleasant and genuine keeping in good mood. I just dont prioritize her.
Me31 W31 M11yrs S6yrs 23Mar16-BD 9Apr16-W admitted EA w boss. 27Jun16-W Changed job and promised NC w OM. 14Jul16-Continued contact w OM.Start of Separation. 24May17-Divorced.
Me31 W31 M11yrs S6yrs 23Mar16-BD 9Apr16-W admitted EA w boss. 27Jun16-W Changed job and promised NC w OM. 14Jul16-Continued contact w OM.Start of Separation. 24May17-Divorced.
