So a friend of my W reached out to me today and was telling me how my W has booked driving lessons and was telling me that she's happy without my and that she can't see an way that my W will change her mind.
I politely thanked her for contacting me and told her that I would appreciate it if didn't do so in the future.
I think it was the perfect response. it may have been your W trying to get a reaction, but it doesn't matter, right?
By the way, are you referring to driving a car when you refer to the driving lessons? I'm just wondering cause where I'm from, USA, very few people take lessons, so I thought you were referring to truck driving.
I'm glad to hear you woke up feeling better, once you start moving towards working on you, it will get easier to wake up feeling good.
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Exactly my thought, I can longer concern myself with what she is thinking or over analyse what she is saying. I have to trust that if it was real love she'll find her way back.
Yeah I'm talking about driving a car. Over in the UK if you want to learn to drive you have to pay for private lessons which cost a fortune.
I had somewhat of a positive day today, managed to focus on work and didn't find my mind wondering as much.
I am starting to wonder if I've got the patience to play the long game as I'm desperate for a positive result. I keep thinking that there must be something I can say to her which will make everything alright but I know in my heart this isn't the case.
Struggling today, woke up and my W is the first thing on my mind. I'm starting to question how long I can do this for and I'm convinced that as every day goes by I'm losing her a little bit more
Hi Kyler, I am sorry to hear of your struggle. It is difficult to get the spouses out of our heads at first. Every little thing can be a trigger. It is okay to miss your W but don't get too caught up in it.
I know how scary it is to lose someone whom we love dearly and not be able to do anything about it. I know how that fear can punch you in the gut and take your breath away. But you need to control that fear.
But Kyler, in our need to win our spouses back/ not lose our spouses, a lot of times, we lose ourselves instead. I realise that in our ordeals, the fight should be to save ourselves first. You know the thing about putting on your own oxygen mask before helping others? Same principle.
Is there anything that you can do for yourself to take your mind off everything?
You can call me Dory/ Grl.
As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"
It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.
Thank you for this message, I know the path need to take I just need to find strength to take the first step.
You see the advice I've been given to best handle this situation and give me the best chances of my W returning goes against all logic in my mind. I'm a fixer, if something is broke I will set out to make it whole again and it is a foreign concept to do the opposite.
Thank you for this message, I know the path need to take I just need to find strength to take the first step.
You see the advice I've been given to best handle this situation and give me the best chances of my W returning goes against all logic in my mind. I'm a fixer, if something is broke I will set out to make it whole again and it is a foreign concept to do the opposite.
