last night the ww got in the car at 10ish to go somewhere (I think it was campaign related, not sure)
She would not tell me where she was going. I asked if it was related to her talk about dating other people she said she will not answer that. I said you have your overnight bag with you. (it was her purse, not the overnight bag) She said no it is her purse.
*&*&*she also said she wished she had another place to stay if so she would be there tonight*&*&&&
I thought she talked with her x and arranged a place to stay. I also thought she talked with her sister in law and had arranged to stay with her as well.
M-41 W-46 T- 17 years M- 13 yrs SS - 25 SD- 22 D 11 ILYBNILWY - 6/6/15 Status - DBing, GAL
Was my plan to cut her off getting her attention and this was her threat to have a place to stay with her x her way to pay me back?
It does seem very odd that you kept in contact with a man for 17 plus years with no knowledge from your husband. She would mention him from time to time but never said we still keep in touch.
M-41 W-46 T- 17 years M- 13 yrs SS - 25 SD- 22 D 11 ILYBNILWY - 6/6/15 Status - DBing, GAL
So my WW has presented an ultimatum. Either I allow her to stay with me and there will be competition for her time and affection or sign the D papers.
StepUp,
When I read stuff like that I get pissed-off. I don't get upset because your wife said that, I get upset because she apparently believes you'd consider that proposition.
My usual disclaimer; I'm just a guy and I don't know what is and what isn't DB, so don't act on my recommendation without input from others.
My recommendation: Sign the freaking D papers and kick her ass out. Now.
Now is the time to stop trying to mind read what is going on with your wife. It is time for you to focus all of your time, effort and energy into yourself and your kids.
It is also time for you to stop allowing your wife to eat cake while she carries on with her EA/PA and bullying you into doing things her way.
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