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CRW, I feel for you, but what cadet posted once upon a time still rings in my head everyday. It keeps me motivated really.

"Most Ms are over at BD, the only problem is that the LBS does not believe it."

You must believe that it is over, you must believe that she is not yours anymore.

Any time I am feeling lost, I start back over with a beginner's mind. Try to gain some better perspective on my situation.

Have you read the book?

Blu, keep coming at me, I need it! I had some time this weekend when I truly felt detached. It felt great. I am going to keep working on that.

I struggle with the concept that the marriage is over. Doesn't mean I am giving up, but the marriage is over, the marriage is over, the marriage is over.....

KEEP ON KEEPING ON CRW. It will change your mindset.

So she just texted me this:

Are you happy?

How the [censored] do I respond to that?

Context, nothing major happened today, some back and forth about S15 car.

No need to respond to that.

Seems like a set up

Don't go for those crumbs! It is okay to ignore her. She asked for a separation and so she doesn't get R talk. It is okay to create boundaries to protect you! ... If she keeps temp checking and throwing crumbs, it is okay to tell her that you are not comfortable with those type of discussions right now. She doesn't get to leave you, give you a hard time, and then throw that out there. No maam!

-Blu

So apparently we got a court date, June of 2017. That is what she was so upset about.

"You get to keep control of my life for another year, thanks for making me cry once again.

I'll take your silence as your true feelings. Thanks for your continued and unconditional support to ensure my happiness. "

What I don't get is if she is so all fire gung ho on getting the D done, why doesn't she have her lawyers draw up the papers?

I'm sure there's tons of things you want to say to reply. To defend yourself.

None of it will do any good.

I don't see any reply that gets you closer to your goals.