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When a woman is spoiled all her life, or really just by her H, to the point she develops a princess entitlement...........why would you expect it to change now? When you were M, you basically stayed out of her way and let her do whatever she wanted. Now, she is just a female bully. She pushed you around when you lived with her, and she's still trying to push you around. This is not a mental disorder. It is a picture of self-centeredness at it's worse. (Expect, I don't really think this is as bad as it can get. Difference is that you have your eyes open, now).

Yesterday afternoon was full on drama. STBXW called two neighbors to try and watch boys so she could leave. She called and had the 3 stay in after school care. When I stood my ground and her plans did not work she had to go pick the boys up while one neighbor watched the two little ones that were napping.

I came home at 545 pm and STBX was fuming. She wanted to start talking about splitting assets. I asked her to put her list together of what she wanted and I would review.
She stated why does she have to put the list together? I told her I don't really care about what assets she takes as everything will be equally split and I will replace the rest.

Then she started saying that she does not need to be here in the summer when the boys are out of school and that she will file a motion to do 2 weeks with her and 2 weeks with me. I stated that does not work for me.

Then she asked where I would be living with the boys and I said that is none of her business at this time. When I asked where she would be living with them she stated she has a house (her parent's house), well I can take my boys to my parents house also and she became more upset.

The entire time I was on the phone with a friend prior to walking into the house. I was laughing and was happy. This drove my STBX crazy. She tried to grab the phone away from me twice to see who I was talking to. STBX continued to rant and rave for 30 minutes, following me around the house and recorded me on video, as she was recording she was making all these ridiculous statements.

Confirmed with neighbor that STBX's parents will be buying the house in Toronto for her and the boys. Well I guess we will see how that goes with court.

@Sandi2, I am sure this is going to get worse until the D is over.

CWOL,

Never found out if he actually had an MRI. Don't really think he did since she pulled the same thing yesterday.

Wow JimKao is all I can say. I know I am dealing with a certain kind of crazy, but it seems you are as well.
Paranoia and anger at seeing us in a happy place. It is sad that we want to fight for our MR, yet a D is the only thing that will seem to bring us peace at this time.

I hope you can have some peaceful moments today. Hang in the brother. It has to end at some point, Right?!?

I have read similar actions of other WW's with a princess entitlement. Dear lord! All this simply b/c you did not kneel to her crazy demand of when she wanted you coming home. Didn't matter what the agreement was.....but whatever she demands right that minute!

I think this will be a case where every holiday and summer will have to be decided by the court. This woman is not going to play fair, and she sure isn't going to be nice.

I think maybe I've warned you in the past, but in case......take heed. Any sentimental or otherwise valuable item you have, be sure to secure it before being quite so free to let her choose whatever she wants. Seriously!

The craziest thing she said was, "Why do I have to put the list together".

Sadhub,

Thank you. I did have a good day today. Started out kind of rough as each day there is at least one or two of the boys that act out. I know they are not intentionally doing it, they are hurt. I comfort them and be a parent at the same time that will not be a push over.

We went to a nephews birthday party at a roller skating rink. The boys had fun. All in all the day ended well, it made me happy that the boys were able to do something different today!

As far as the drama ending, I am sure it will. Don't know if that will be right after the D or not. At least I know now that I can confidently hang up the phone whenever she starts to spew anger at me. The crazy part is when I did that in the past, she would continue to blow up both my work and personal cell phone and call at least 5 or 6 times until I answered. Seeing that we have a 2 year old, I hope that this does not continue for the next 16 years!

Strange but I am smiling and laughing thinking about how absurd she is with her actions sometimes.

Hope you had a wonderful day also!

This is how my life has been for quite a while. Many family and friends say that STBX was like this from the day we met. They may be right.



I will do everything I can to protect myself and boys and ensure that I can clearly put in every provision possible that will make things crystal clear based on the law. This is the only way I will ever have any control for me and my boys.



Well she has already gone off the deep end. Today I realized that she took 80% of the boys clothing to Toronto when her mother came into town (to watch the two little ones) last Wednesday for the court hearing we had on the marital home. Texted my L about this. L says we will have to file a motion since STBX has violated a court order that all possessions that were obtained during marriage are required to stay in the house.

Sandi, this type of scenario is nothing compared to what I have dealt with in the past.

Those stories may have to be shared in a new thread some time in the future for a good laugh or shock value. Yes, the stories get better and I am sure you would not believe that a person like her actually exists in this world.

So frustrating with these shenanigans... Can you tell her that unless she has the clothes back by the end of the weekend, your L will file a motion? Worried about the cost, but there's also a principle...

My immediate question is - how come you had many children with her, if she was so off the wall all the time? Or was that something she wanted?

Keep on smiling and have a good chuckle. It really does help keep the sanity. Those are the moments that remind me I am not the crazy one, because I have moments of doubt. But the absurdity of the behavior really just has to make you laugh.

I agree, we have to hope that something happens for her that the crazy does not last for so long. When I start to dread the number of years before my youngest will be of age, I just stop. I then focus on my youngest and what I want to do for and with her during those years. I then daydream of the possibility that the WAW co Es to her senses, or goes over the edge and I can have full custody of. Those thoughts provide more hope and give me strength.

But the insanity that we have to deal with, will have to come to an end. Because we will work on our selves and create a future that is bright and full of joy.

Keep the smile, it improves the mood.
Keep on keeping on my friend.