Thanks guys, I had the thought logically, but a reaction was in the back of my mind.... But I think your right DDJ, I think I need to draw it out to stay with my S as long as possible, that's more important to me than getting away from her.
But, I just found out that the calls that I thought were to the OM was actually her BFFs phone number... Doesn't prove that she's not talking to OM, but it definitely makes me feel better.
I also think she is trying to figure out what actions she can take to regain my trust, I.e. The text last night after class. Problem is I need her to own up to the affair and show remorse for that first, she is still blaming me.
M - 9 1/2 years 5/5/16 - Bomb drop - 3 week EA 10/31/16 - We sold house 01/10/18 - D Finalized
Wow, that's a lot of posts... Should I be going trough all of sitch, or just reading his comments.
You may want to check with Wonka. She suggested Puppy's posts, so I don't know if she had any particular ones in mind. He was Chocolate Eyes (or Ole Chocolate Eyes) before changing his name, and I don't think he had a thread after becoming Puppy. I tried the search function for Chocolate Eyes, but couldn't get it.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
I also think she is trying to figure out what actions she can take to regain my trust, I.e. The text last night after class. Problem is I need her to own up to the affair and show remorse for that first, she is still blaming me.
Just watch what you're saying/thinking Coconut. You have no idea what she is thinking and sometimes you have no idea what you're thinking. LOL
I'm off to bed. Sleep well tonight.
Just cos things are going right, doesn't mean that they were always wrong.
I shouldn't of been so nice and cordial today, I totally didn't think about her last text to me, saying be nice or get out.. Oh well, hopefully it doesn't go to her head.
She wouldn't have liked it if you had said, "Be faithful, or get out"!
I garantee you she thinks that is why you were much warmer.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Slooooow down. Who said anything about having to sell the house? You're just over a week into this process.
Trust the DB process and allow it time to take root. You're being too impatient and borrowing trouble. Your mind is going off in a million directions. Not good for your mind and spirit. Follow the steps that I have you several posts back and come here with questions. We'll all be right here for you.
It's all good Wonka, it was literally just a thought.. Sandi, the sad thing is that I had already decided I would be cordial since I had misunderstood suggestion, when I didn't respond to her text I kind of put it out of my mind, wasn't until later I made that connection.
The pills the dr. Gave me are good, I feel so much more in control of my emotions, but my thoughts are definitely running through my head.
WW went to counseling today, she said it was good and the Therapist Wants to see both of us in 10 days, said the therapist Would call to speak to me about it... Is it a bad idea to go together at this point? I'm thinking it may be, but I guess I'll wait and see what the therapist has to say when she calls.
M - 9 1/2 years 5/5/16 - Bomb drop - 3 week EA 10/31/16 - We sold house 01/10/18 - D Finalized
