Thanks all, yes, I promise I won't say when can I move back home! In fact, I would suggest that we give it at least two months of "dating" if she asks. Or I might say, let's just take it a day at a time and see. or something vague. I wish you could all be my little guardian angels whispering encouragement in my ear!
And I think it's possible (but not expecting this) that the vacation was the final obligation and they both realized it's over. Why else would W be temp checking me three times already to make sure I will still see her on Thursday? I know, there could be any number of reasons, and not all what I want to hear. I will be patient and listen. Thanks again for all the advice. Keep it coming!
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
I think better days are coming your way. Dress to kill at the meeting and maybe have a couple of glasses of wine if that helps you mellow out and not show anxiousness.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
Hi NYGal, I'm not good at the no expectations stuff either so it seems like a baby step to me. I have everything crossed for you and hope it is a step towards where you want to go and that you do not end up reeling and hurt again. Try to be fun but play it cool - hard I know, I can't even take my own advice even though I know I should!
Thanks so much inpain! If this is not good news, I think it will be a turning point toward dropping the rope. I can't take much more of this. But I can take baby steps, and hope she'll take a few in my direction as well.
I have to re-read all the validation statements as homework tonight!
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
I'm pulling for you NYGal!! I hope that you see some small indications of progress, and that you are able to act the way that you imagine you will (that you can hide aany nxiousness, etc..). I know that last part can be tough when you're in the thick of things, so I'm wishing you a calm and pleasant evening.
All the best tomorrow!
H: 44, Me: 45 Married: 20 y Together: 25 y no kids Walk away: 12/15 Asked for temp separation 12/25/15 PA confirmed 3/16 (apparently neither the first, nor the last PA he has had) H filed for D 5/16
I would not have a couple of glasses of wine! You need to be in control and listen, not talk. Maybe you're more tolerant to alcohol than me, but a couple of glasses of wine would have me saying everything that went through my mind with no filtering...
M 16 yrs, WH62, P54 3 adult blended kids EA 11/13, BD1 6/14 PA fall 14, BD2 2/15 Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15 Separated 4/16 WH moved OW in 5/16 Divorced 6/15/17
