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My WW loves it when she thinks I am hurting. She has this smirk/smile she has that is a tell tell sign. I first saw it when she came home at 4am one sat in Jan, she just smirked. Now I've seen it a few times. It is an evil thing.

Unfortunately Ralph their narcissism is a huge part of their new personality. They feel that they can do no wrong and that you can do no right. Of course it is absurd but there is no changing it. There is only managing your expectations and focusing on yourself.

Rouky some day that drink will happen. Our circumstances have brought us together and you are an angel from God to me in this ordeal. It is a feeling of panic in my heart to think of going through this without you. God Bless you both and here's to a great week of GAL!

I'm so sorry Shotgun for not checking on you as I was so focused on feeling sorry for myself and trying to navigate this mess. How are you doing? How is work? I suspect you must be loving it as the weather is getting better. How is your son doing? Any ladies I should be jealous of?

((((hugs))))

Hey Rouky I will always forgive you! I am doing so well. I really wish that you would step into this room of acceptance with me. It's lovely in here. Neither you nor I had any role in the affair of our spouse and nothing we could have done would have changed their mind. I am so thankful to not have to deal with my ex other than the divorce proceedings. She is lately complaining of having to do too much in regards to the transporting and care of our son. She complained bitterly of an imbalance in our marriage but she never would recognize the contribution I made in taking care of his every need. It was a very big job in that it was an hour round trip to get him to school and I did that twice a day. His music lessons were intensive and I did all of that. His classes for his social issues were a long drive. I did all of the cleaning in our home for fifteen years. I did half of the cooking. I am a good man and father and I was a fantastic husband. I have women beating down my door and I am respected by everyone I meet with the exception of one person. I say all of this because I know that you are the same as me. All of this is about your husband and nothing else. Please save yourself from this madness and see the truth where it lies. You know that I love you and I am certain that there is a very special man waiting to cherish you exactly the way you deserve. There are men out there who know who they are and what they want and are waiting to share a beautiful life with a special lady. I pray for you every day and I know you will get there. Just let go and look at the beautiful lady in the mirror and accept her for what she is. A smart, talented, sexy girl who any man but your husband would die for. Stay in touch when you can and have faith. God Bless you Rouky

Hi, would you marry me once I'm divorced? H has never done any of what you have done for your wife. I just wanted him to support me with helping the kids, working full time and the running of the house. I don't know why it's so hard to let go!

I'm not like you and I don't have men waiting by my door, anyway I know it won't be good as I have so much going on that I can't focus on anything else.

Thank you for your prayers as I feel at the moment I could do with a little hep from above to help with the healing!

Of course I would marry you Rouky! You are amazing and you were a great wife. You are having trouble letting go because you put so much into the marriage. There is no shame in that. When you love someone it is hard to let go. I still love my wife but I now see her for what she is. And it isn't very pretty. I overlooked so much over the course of fifteen years trying to keep her happy and keep her from going off the deep end. Thank God I no longer am concerned with that. There is another man to fix everything for her. They kind of deserve each other. You will get here. The Lord will help you with it. I have no doubt that once you get yourself out there and men start to find you that it will help with the healing process. There is no elixir like having someone pursuing you. I guess I am pretty lucky in that I am in contact with so many people and I do have women who want to go out with me. I will do what my therapist said and be patient. I know that going forward I will not compromise on a couple of issues. Any future relationship that I am in will be one that is affectionate and kind. I'll not date anyone who is callous toward others and judgmental. Only smart women need apply. You fit every category and would be a wonderful wife. You were a wonderful wife. Your husband is an @$$ and undeserving of you. Stay with the counseling dear and get yourself out there. All men aren't jerks and thousands of us want someone just like you. I love you and I am here for you always. Keep in touch.

Hi handsome, thank you for stopping by me post. How are you? How is your work going? Still able to be outside? How is your son doing? How is the gym going?

Thinking of you :-) xx

Hello Rouky you sexy thing! I am doing well. I feel great and emotionally I get a little stronger every day. Still no progress on the divorce but I have left that in my Lord's and my attorny's hands. I am very hopeful that I will get to keep my house but I am ready for whatever. Work is going well as is the gym. I broke a rib by dropping the bar on my chest but that is healing. I missed a couple of months with that but fortunately didn't lose a lot of muscle. I meet a ton of nice ladies but I am being very patient and following the advice of my therapist. She insists that a year must pass between relationships and I am seeing the wisdom in that. I have had to deal with so much with the cancer and with my divorce and both of their effects on my business. Thank God I have insurance and my employer is very good to me. I have learned so much through all of this and I am amazed at how every story is the same. What I must do going forward and you must as well is to be willing to be alone rather than be with someone like my wife and your husband. I think the warning signs are always there and those of us who are very forgiving and kind are a target of those who are not. My guard is up but I am open to someone new. I do know there is someone out there who is as kind and loving and affectionate as I am. I feel like I have a lot of years ahead of me and I will find that person or she will find me. Thank you Rouky for your concern and if you ever get to the US.....................

Visiting the US is on my top list as I had the opportunity to go there when I was a student but my mum objected against it. Sorry to hear about your rib cage, that's what happens when you try to impress some ladies :-)!

Funny how they want us out of their life but aren't doing much towards finalising divorce! Well I'm enjoying my new house and I know that emotionally I'm not ready for another relationship unless a handsome American man would knock on my door with his famous waffles :-).

How is your son doing? I don't want to sound too rude but I know your other sobs are older, so I guess there are coping better than your youngest.

I'm so glad to hear that you are doing fine. You have been such a support for me and a friend that you'll always have a special place in my heart😊. It's not a goodbye, but I have noticed that when I take a break from here ( even for a day, I'm detaching more from my situation).

Always thinking of you as my ray of sunshine in this dark tunnel 🌝

Hey Rouky I think you are finally starting to heal. There is a time when we are better off to get away from all the heartache here. Our exes have spent all this time with people who validate their every thought and support them in their madness. We need the same thing in our lives. Try to find some friends who love and support you fully and let them help you build yourself up. I will always be here for you and will be in touch. Love you always and keep up the good work. Mark