I picked up my oldest GS yesterday (9) to spend the night here. We are playing a game, and he comes out, and says to me i guess you know grandma is hanging out with someone? I said yes i know buddy. Then he asked if i knew his name, and i said yes. Then he told me mom said not to tell you, but i figured you would know anyways. I don't like to talk about this stuff with my grandkids, but i guess my W has no problem in letting it be known that she has a friend. He also told me that they we talking him, and his brother someplace on sunday. It's time like this where i struggle. Inside i had a tough night, but outside me, and my GS had a great time.
My Step Daughter invited me over Saturday to have Easter with the grandkids which i think was very nice of her. We usually had Easter at our house. This year my MIL wanted to have it at her place with the family, and my W would not agree to it. So my MIL said well it will just be her, and her husband then. She's not in agreement with what's going on with W. The stink of it is that my daughter is going to have my W, and OM over Sunday. This will be the first holiday without her, and to know she is spending it with D, and grandkids, and OM is eating at me.
I've decided to file for uncontested divorce. My W is going to file anyways so there is no sense for me to continue to be disrespected while she is with OM. This marriage is dead, and if we were to get back together we would need to start over again anyways.
It's been a little while since i've posted.Ben trying to detach since i filed for divorce. I have my good days, and bad just like always.
Last night was a big blow though. My S29 ask me if i head the news, and i said no. He said me called me a left a message on his cell because he didn't answer it that so n so my youngest grandson's dad was killed in a car accident. WOW....Now when my GS was young his dad was not in his life much. Mostly in Jail. So i kind of was there for him.Well both of my grandkids because they both had those dead beat dads, and my D lived at home for most of the time.
He got out last year, and well it seemed he had changed for the better, and they started spending alot of time together which was nice. Now this. Lind of put me in shock, and that little guy was just getting to know his Dad again.
Another shock was that my wife didn't even bother to call me about this. I would say that this is pretty important, and i think that she should have told me herself. So i have a question in this. Is this how a WW acts even at a time like this? It's not that's she's mad that i filed because that's what she wants too.
I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your GS dad in what must have been a terrible car accident.
I know you would have preferred to hear that news from your wife, but the good news is that you did get the info from your son. Focus on being there for your GS, not on who delivered the news.
Put all of your time, effort and energy into being the best GWH, dad and grandfather that only a fool would leave.
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Well nothing really new to report other than yesterday was my GS's dad's funeral. A very sad day for everyone involved especially my GS. I feel so bad for him.
My W was also there. She did say hello, but i wish i didn't see her because i was doing so good with detaching. Guess you could say i had a rough nigh last night. Oh well it's a good thing for this place. It's got me through so bad day's.
Hey all, i need your thoughts on this. Monday i told my STBXW that we needed to go to the notary, and get a paper notarized. So she said ok Tuesday at 11:00. So she calls yesterday at 9:30 and said she worked all night, and is to tired to meet we can do it tomorrow at the same time. So today rolls around, and she calls at 8:30, and tells me she worked again, and she's to tired, but will def do tomorrow. Is STBXW playin me, or what?
It seems no one has any input for me as of late, but i will keep looking for it. This community has really helped me along the way.
We finally got the papers notarized today. Afterwards W txt me, and ask...
W..is there any way to speed the process up? M.. Trust me i'm doing what i can. If you were in such a hurry then why didn't you file? Something tells me W is in a big rush for some reason. W..Ok M..I know what your up too. Your gonna marry this guy. Your choice, but from this day forward you are dead to me. W..I choose not to fight with you, and i'm not going too. W..We are over, and done who knows what the future holds i sure don't. Good Bye.
Now at this point in time i don't really care what i say to her because i'm just angry, and we are D anyway's, but what the hell is she talking about we are over and done but who knows what the future holds?? Any ideas?
