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Melo: I wanted to check in with you. I've not heard where you are these days. Keep on your path. I believe in you and will do what I can to support you from afar.

Ok so I am pretty angry today. No particular reason, just everything. My W prays with the kids before bed without me, she is condescending (I did give her some attitude back for that) and she is sneaky as ever with her phone, like there is a secret from the CIA on there. She's playing me for a fool and I don't like it one bit. I feel like looking all through her phone, taking pics and then anonymously email them to OMW. Take that you self absorbed B1tch! I hate her today.

Melo my man - I'm sorry. As we have learned from the great info on this website - She will test and bait us. Somehow we need to not take the bait. She wants us to act badly. We need to bite hard on our tongues. Maybe make your self a great playlist on Youtube of tunes that will make your heart pump - put headphones on and crank it. We need to retaliate in a way that she won't expect it. We need to be cool under fire. As Sandi2 says we need to change the dynamics of the MR. Scroll up to Sandi2's post - maybe there are some good ideas for you. I'm with you

Hang in there Melo

Anger can be a good thing if controlled. V has some good points on what she calls white anger. And I hear you on the condescending thing. That really makes my blood pressure raise. But we have to maintain our cool. Set boundaries but remain calm. Easier said than done but worth it for our own benefit. I have been dealing with that for a couple of days now.

You got my support here in your corner.

I've never really posted much on online forums (except for certain watch forums-I love watches). I can't begin to express how thankful I am for this one. I am blessed to have found this place. I truly don't know what would have been of me or my M had I not.
Sandi- I am honored to have earned a good job from you! Thank!
Biz: thank you for the prayers and support. I'm praying for you and I'm here for you as well brother
Hub: thank you for the support and encouragement. Your words help brin g me peace. Thanks brother

Ok so yesterday the W was pretty pissy, she was ignoring me when I got home. I asked a few questions then told myself I was pursuing and stopped. She went to "the store" (probably talking to OM) and when she got back she was super talkative. She told me all about her day and her Mom's medical condition. She also said she was going to the gym. I was going to go out, but I felt bad that I was leaving, knowing she had plans to do something. I went anyway (still felt guilty) and just drove around. This morning W was indifferent but she eventually softened up a bit.

Melo: How are you doing? We've not heard from you lately. I hope all is well.

Yeah it's been awhile! I've been busy working, looking for a new job and GALing. I've had several conversations with the W. The last one was yesterday morning, she was complaining and fighting about the house being dirty. I usually ignore it, but I HATE when there is so much negativity in the morning and I stood up to her. I told her that it looks just like it did when she left at 10:30 the night before, and that it does'nt clean itself. I told her that she is seeing it worse than it is. She got real mad and started saying that we have different goals and will never see eye to eye. I said what do goals have to do with cleaning the house?! She left, saying that I don't know half of the pressure that she is under... Then she texts me that she is sorry, she doesn't mean to take it out on me, she just has a lot on her mind. I waited several hours and responded I understand. Yeah I've done some pursuing, but for the most part I've been aloof, hanging with the kids. She cleaned the house before she left last night though...and this morning said she was trying to not be so angry in the morning. I said good, it's better for you and better for the kids.

Wow Melo - looks like you are turning a corner. What kind of work are you looking for? Best of luck. Don't let her get in your way.

I meant to tell you that you taught me something recently. You said to your W that you would not talk to her when she is angry. Boundaries, I guess. Well last night, she and I were supposed to talk about $ and house stuff. When it was time she was hostile and basically said - Go ahead and talk, I won't listen - then go back to what I'm doing. I simply said, I'm not going to talk to you if you are not cooperative and receptive. Then I said goodnight. Melo I got that strength and inspiration from you. I owe you one for sure.