Divorcebusting.com Forums Open Forums For Newcomers No End in Sight

Yep not worried about it. Whatever, her FB says does not affect me so IDC. She has to figure out what she is doing with her. If she needs to be divorced, that is what she needs to do. I cannot change her and I do not want to expend the energy thinking or trying to change her. The energy I expend for her... all I have left for her, is to pray she gets help and finds happiness. Without divine intervention, I highly doubt that will be the case which makes me sad for her, but not my problem.

Let me take back the part about it not bothering me. I thought if she put divorced, my page would automatically change. It doesn't, so what do I do? I do not want to be reactionary but I do not want to look like the pining H, because I am not anymore. So do I change my status too or do I just let it go. Maybe for a week or so? Oh decisions, decisions.... Well I have a very busy day at work. Any advise on this would be appreciated!

Why don't you just delete the whole relationship status and leave it blank? It won't show up on your profile then, it'll be the most neutral way to do it.

I like that idea CWOL. I am going to try that!

That's what I did actually.

I deleted all info - in fact my picture is gone replaced with a black box. No biggie - I have like 2 people on FB I "friended" years ago before I knew I had no concept of what to use FB for or why. I had to tell them to email me if they want a response after I saw somebody asked me something - 6 months after the fact!

Anyway, I just took away everything - why give away details? I even tried to kill off my B-day, but FB doesn't let you remove some things. Can't remember if I finally did it or not, but oh well.

I'm still ticked the W never friended me - even when she had her "I love my H" on her statement or whatever it was. Makes me think she's always been leading a double life, no? Anyway, I use linkedin because it at least serves some sort of purpose.

Journaling

Well the trailer park boy has been dumped and replaced with a little pipsqueak. At least this guy I think has a job. I was a little hurt when S told me on the way to practice. It bothered me for a few hours but I knew I would have bad days. This was just a low couple of hours. I can live with that. Tomorrow, I have multiple hearings in spread out counties so I will be uber rushed. Then I will do a little retail therapy and will feel much better.

Anyway, this piece of information has brought me to think maybe I should just file and let that be that. I was waiting for her to file, I was going to sign right away anyway. I just did not want to be the one to pay for everything, since she never paid for anything. Now I am thinking maybe I will just file. If she incurred a debt it could still go against me, so I would help protect me. I have been debating this for awhile now, and am going to let it sit before I do.

I think you should just file. The cost of filing should be minimal compared to your legal exposure if she goes off and signs a bunch of stuff right? Buy that diamond ring she always wanted?

Two OM's under her belt means she's not recovering any time soon.

Tim, that's what i did. My W is not even with the guy she had the A with. She is dating another so i just filed. I knew she was going to do it in a matter of time anyways. Like CWOL said two OM's they are not recovering anytime soon.

My WH is on OW5.

V

Thanks V, GWH, and CWOL. I was going to take everyone's advise about just filing but just found out... problem solved! WW contacted me tonight. Asked me about when I was going to filed the complaint and that it was a bit silly I am a lawyer but will not "do it out of spite." LOL. I replied that I have no problem filing it and she continued to yell at me on the phone saying just like the old me, that I want to force her to spend the money on the filing fees. She must have a very different memory of our marriage, cause my savings and checking seems to show I kept paying everything.

Anyway she continued:
"I would like to let get things moving and I am letting a lot of hurtful things you have done to me go and trying my best to get along with you..."

Wow, I was confused I thought it was her who cheated not me??? Well I told her I was going to file but instead of tomorrow like she demanded, it would be when I got paid next Thursday. She then demanded I email her the docs and she would file.

So that is what I will do. I will email her everything and let her file.

Detach

Fine if she does and ok if she doesn't.

Letting go of the outcome.

V