My new nick stands for Just keep swimming, Dory. I just love that happy clueless fish and I am going to watch the new cartoon when it comes out. I bet I will love it more than kid and I bet I will be the weirdo crying my eyes out at the slightest provications.
I have started weeding out people. I was talking to a good friend and told her that I outted my M status so publicly in my workplace because I refuse to be held hostage by the shame the ex and the TP had put me through.
I did not break up a family and a M. I did not lie to my colleagues to cover my ass and make other people look bad. I did not bail on my own kid.
And if my colleagues aren't cool with me because of the change in my M status, then they really are people that have no place in my life.
Thanks for putting me to task.
Short term goals for kid: Get her adjusted and spend time with her. Listen to her more, do more fun things and not be so short with her in the morn and b4 bedtime.
LOVE HER!
Short term goals for work: Buy over the stakeholders Keep a better schedule and stick to it Let slide my frustrations and not take things too personally
Short term goal for the ex: Minimal contact Keep it short and sweet Have no expectations Be civil and polite
But total NC would be nice.
You can call me Dory/ Grl.
As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"
It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.
JksD, I saw your post in Newcomers, and want to address friend v. neighbor. For a long time I was ready to be friends with Mr. Perfect, I had given up on being his W, and thought we could move into a friendship. But he never wanted that, I don't know why. Maybe he saw it as my holding on, maybe he just doesn't want to be around me. So we are now co-parents and that's it. We co-parent very well together, but have no interaction beyond that. I'd still prefer to be friends, but have a full, rich, busy life without him.
I am now more and more comfortable with the idea of being divorced. I dont hide the fact but I also don't go around blurting it out to everyone I meet.
If they ask up front, I will tell the truth. Baby steps to self-acceptance.
There are those who look at me strangely. But I am glad that they have shown me their true colours because I know that I dont need to waste my time on them.
You can call me Dory/ Grl.
As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"
It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.
Jjb, if you happen to drop by, I want you to know that you're right.
I have been flirting with someone at the workplace and I am proud to say that I have managed to make him blush! I find us gravitating towards each other but I am quite at a loss as to how to ramp this up. We haven't really had a chance to be alone.
I have been noticing his interactions with others and find that he's really sweet and patient to those in need. He seems to have the same wacky humour as I do too.
Problem is Mr L is going to change jobs soon. And our flirtations may just remain as flirtations.
You can call me Dory/ Grl.
As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"
It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.
