I understand that anger. How can she do this? Does she not care? Does our time together mean nothing? etc. Use the anger to detach. I do best with the anger because I can see what WAW is putting not just me but the family through and it helps me to picture moving on, even though I am still holding out some hope. I am trying to proceed like it is already final.
Sad to say but this is long bumpy ride my friend. Focus on your kids and you and GAL activities and possibly her time alone with the S will lower her walls a bit.
I will tell you that the stress of having you both in same house at the moment is rough. When you do separate, at least you both can breathe. This whole thing is killing me with S but I am in one week and feel better than day 1. So it does get better.
Fight the good fight no matter the quality of your opponent.
Me-50 WAW-45 S13 Married 24 years Bomb 1-Jan.2008 Disc. EA She came back for 8 years Bomb 2-Jan-2016 Separation 3-12-2016
This might sound like a stupid question, but here it goes. Wedding ring, she hasn't worn it since BD'd. Should I ask for it when she leaves?
Doing things to simply get a reaction will not likely get you much .... Why get the ring, does it fit you? Would you wear it? What's the purpose... Even in a D case rinds are classified as gifts... Not like another woman would want it.
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I've all of a sudden got this real intense anger building up in me. I'm trying my best to let it out slowly, and trying not to let it out in front of my kids or wife. Is this normal when someone is getting closer to a separation date? she's moving out April 1st. This is a horrible feeling that i don't like to have inside of me. it's starting to effect my work and the way I've been interacting with my colleagues.
Anger is, of course, quite normal. Have you looked into stages of grief? If not, please do so.Anger is not to be subdued, but it HAS TO BE CHANNELED. Do not get angry in front of her, or heaven forbid in front of the children. A baseball bat and an old trash can do the trick nicely, or better yet go for a long hike in the woods and yell at a spruce or an oak tree, just be careful not to piss off a bear or a mountain lion (or a park ranger). It is highly therapeutic. I am not kidding you, try this advice, it will do wonders for you. You have to let the anger out of your system in a healthy way.
