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Thanks guys - a lot of what you're saying is what has been rushing through my head.

Both lawyers are looking at me - and you know what? Let them. I'm not going to do a blessed thing.

She might be confused, she might not be - she could be talking about something else - who knows.

As I just told a friend - It's going to be a long time before I try to pick up that scorpion again.

If this is really what the W wants - really she can stew in it as long as it takes - but she's got to come to me. I'm not going to ask for the L's. I'm moving ahead as if nothing had happened.

Sandi2, you're right. If I were to do this, I can't do what she did to me. And unfortunately, at this very moment - I'm very angry, and very resentful.

So much damage has been done - and I had literally just come to grips with it being truly over with - well I dunno. I just don't see picking up any pieces at the moment.

I'll call my coach on Monday once I've had a chance to calm down, reflect, and see if anything else happens. By Monday I think I might be able to assume it's moving forward and this was just a momentary disturbance in the force.

Who'd ever have thought that soap operas were so completely tame and boring?

Oh, I don't think I addressed this - but yes. Both L's were looking to me to answer this. My L asked if I had had any contact with the W, and I said yes - but it was not pleasant by any means. The first time I answered I defended myself and basically blew it (as mentioned above), the second round I simply validated and didn't address most of the accusations (mostly DR correct).

My L asked me to reach out to her to see what she meant, I said I would. But, I'm not. If I learned anything here, it's let her pursue. She called her L and cut it short, she can call her L and finish the conversation. Or, call me.

Other than that - I'm going off to GAL, it's Friday and I'm going to do what I can to enjoy myself for a little bit.

OMG!
The W sent a text message this morning I didn't see! 6:43am

"I told my attorney to stop the divorce"

...

What do I do?

sounds like a good plan….GAL and lay low

keep us posted

I feel like I need to answer her - even 9 hours later.

Perhaps "I don't know what that means - perhaps you should let me know"?

I just remembered I have something I need to do for a client - I've been so messed up. Why is this happening?

Jesus isn't supposed to come through and answer prayers quite like this - it's supposed to be a more roundabout kind of thing, right?

Think carefully before you respond! AWESOME! Don't rush it. You're busy, remember? Read up on piecing and go very, very slowly.

And I didn't mean to respond "awesome"... that was a comment to you!

Maybe you should say, are you available at 2 p.m. tomorrow to talk about this? That will keep her guessing and gives you a little more power. This is a crucial time for you. Be very cautious!!

Yeah, I'm not even sure about answering her text.

I'm going to ignore it for the moment.

I'm SO GLAD I didn't see it this morning. I probably would have fired off a message right away - as I mentioned above I was dreaming about her and woke up so depressed.

She's stewing in it right now, isn't she?

NYGal, I knew what you meant even if it was a little out of sequence.

And remember, she has to verify that OM is gone, and that she's over him, before you can really move forward.