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Seems like it went better than you thought….similar to my sitch at this time. Hopefully, that gives you the gift of time to start DB'ing for yourself while standing for your marriage.

If you do set up the one account, you make sure you come to the understanding who contributes what and what this money is to be used for in great detail, best in writing, signed by both of you. DO NOT believe anything she says, SHE WILL try to play you...

Yeah, I've already said that we need to outline a agreement on all the fine details signed by both parties. I'm hoping this will give us both time to reflect on our marriage. I'm definitely going as dark as possible except in regards to kids.

If I should start another thread on my reflections, I think I will start by warning H's to be very leery whenever his WW asks to meet for coffee. Let that be a red flag whenever you hear it.

Listen guys, she is not meeting to tell you she has your best interest at heart! She will disguise it with how she will splits 50/50 child time (which the courts would probably do anyway), and in this case made herself appear to be so gracious by keeping her H on her insurance...........and then the REAL reason for the meeting comes out. She wants the H to help with her finances. Why should he? She fired him as her H. Along with his role as H, is the protector and provider. She wants the advantages without actually having him as her H. That is cake eating 101.

If you don't agree to the one account for her, she will drop you off her insurance like a hot potato. This is manipulation. Nobody can do it better than a wayward spouse.

I need solid advice here. Not saying it's not solid what your saying Sandi. I just don't want to ruin a chance for reconciliation down the road. What your saying is there's know reason we shouldn't have separate bank accounts at this point unless she has alterior motives

You are not making ANY sense... Please rephrase your question, I cannot make head or tail of it...

I don't trust my wife right now that's a given. We both have income coming into the account. Mine is a bit more, but I don't believe that's her purpose. I don't think if I suggested that we split accounts up she would drop me off insurance. I believe she's still looking out for herself. I just don't think instance is her motive. I've got a pretty good bullshit detector at this point.

I'm really struggling with this WW terminology. I've got no evidence of any affair and I've done a lot of snooping. I believe my wife definitely qualifies for WAW. I want to be stern with my wife about the moving out and having one bank account but I don't want to come off as a control freak. I want to tell her I don't think dating is wise during the separation in regards to the kids or hope of reconciliation. I just feel like it's going to come off as telling a grown adult what to do. I know most will flame me for being a nice guy or getting gas lighted. I real love my wife and feel bad

Buddy, you could be standing on your head drinking a glass of water whilst humming the Yellow rose of Texas and it will not make one bit of good. She is determined to get away from you and nothing you do right now will make her change her mind.

Any talking about not dating will just make you look weak and pathetic. Oh, she might even verbally agree with with you on this one (while being totally pissed at you for interfering in her personal life), but she WILL do what she wants to do and there is nothing you can do about it. My point is, she WILL be lying to you, sho why even go there?

I hear what you're saying. I'm [censored] scared to death of letting go.