I thought about that but she has been rebellious to all my ideas. I think she will see it as me forcing it, so I will encourage him to ask in a text or something. She seems to consider his requests much more favorably.
Me 41 W 33 M 2013 Suspect A 11/15 Confirm A 1/16 She moved out 2/14/16 Stepson 13 Stepson 16
I agree with Sparkles that you may want to keep it a little shorter next time. I got call from H this morning and I think I did the same thing. I did end the conversation first but still felt like I was a little too friendly and chatty.
I also agree with Thornton - no compliments. I also like the idea of taking S13 to help her since she had surgery…..especially if S13 doesn't want to approach her.
Keep us posted on how it goes with S13 this weekend but don't push because the testings was a success overall :-)
M 44 H 46 M 20yrs T 25 yrs S15 S12
ILYBINILWY 7/18/15 Move to MBR 9/8/15 Physical Separation 10/10/15 Suspect A 8/2015 Confirm A 12/27/15 D filed by H 2/2/16
Well today the pit in my stomach when I awoke was not as big as usual. When I got into the shower, I did not sing sad songs to myself while getting ready for work. And while there is an under current of pain bubbling through every so often, I am going to enjoy and be grateful for this little reprieve.
I am been thinking of a common idea going through the threads about DBing really being for you so when they actually D you, you are a better person on the other side. Maybe that happens a lot, however I cannot agree it is the purpose of DBing... letting the LBS feel good about themselves. No I have to feel as though what I am doing is for a purpose and that purpose is to reunite (and be prepared) with WW in the future.
Let me ask if we are all just here to get better through the D process then why don't we just pack up and leave, throw in the towel and call it quits? It would be easier and less painful for most of us! Yes maybe many of us will never reconcile with our S but the purpose of why we are here is to do just that. Vets ask us "are you doing that to win W/H back or for yourself." I don't think it is to help move on but so the change sticks. If you are doing something primarily to get someone back, the changes you made wont stick once you do.
Maybe a vet will come on and say No Tim your wrong. I would still ask that vet then Why isn't the book called surviving divorce?
Me 41 W 33 M 2013 Suspect A 11/15 Confirm A 1/16 She moved out 2/14/16 Stepson 13 Stepson 16
Well after a very civil conversation yesterday via text, I go another text today. Could she send orders with me for parents, with S to practice. I responded yes. And left it at that. Then another one saying "I told S he could stay over with you tonight but he has to be home by noon." I was ecstatic but just responded, "Thanks." She then blew up my phone with the reason he really needed to be home by 12, getting a haircut and the only girl he likes to touch his hair changed her hours and so on.
After that text I thought I would show the door is open and do a neighborly think and sent, "How did you make out at the dr today?" Low and behold I get a phone call. The call only lasted about 15 minutes of us talking about the dr but she was in a good mood and joked around. I was light and breezy and actually mopping my floors when she called. As I finished mopping my floor, I said well sorry to cut this short but I gotta be going.
S was in a much better mood tonight. I was so good to see him smiling. He told me WW has not talked to him since about a different club or said anything to him about wrestling. Unfortunately, he did tell me she complained when he told her he wanted to stay tonight with me saying "You are always with Tim and never spend any time with me." He also told me she yelled at him sometime (he did not say when it was) telling him "you are starting to act just like Tim." I am going to take that as she was complimenting him :0
So anyway we did practice. He seemed a bit better with me being his partner. Then we went to a movie "Gods of Egypt" save your money the movie sucked but I could not have been in better company.
Feeling happy today but I am sure it will hurt when I drop him off tomorrow.
Me 41 W 33 M 2013 Suspect A 11/15 Confirm A 1/16 She moved out 2/14/16 Stepson 13 Stepson 16
It doesn't have to drop tim. It sounds like you had a great day. Very positive. You are making memories for both of you. When you feel down again, use these happy memories to put a smile on your face.
The person that you will spend the most time with in your life is yourself, so make yourself as interesting as possible.
Thanks Tyler I did. It was great having him for time other than practice. We had some fun and we both came out of our funk for a night. She may never know how much happiness she gave me tonight, she may never care either... but I choose to love her anyway for it!
Me 41 W 33 M 2013 Suspect A 11/15 Confirm A 1/16 She moved out 2/14/16 Stepson 13 Stepson 16
Glad to hear you had such a good time. Remember the happiness is for you and your boys. Whether she knows or not is not important right now. The important thing is being there. Bringing happiness to each others lives.
The person that you will spend the most time with in your life is yourself, so make yourself as interesting as possible.
