I think my wife may be having ea with exboyfriend. Lol. Just kidding
Kidd all you want, but the exes are prime suspects. And yes, I came out of this whole mess a better man with a better understanding of the world. I am almost glad this whole thing happened (and I am NOT kidding).
Well she's sticking to her guns. Wife has told me she's getting a apartment and taking the kids since I won't move out. I'm not quite sure how I feel about I'm taking the kids statement. I guess I need to talk to my lawyer ASAP. Looks like I'll be moving into a new stage of this growth experience.
Me-LBH, 44 Spouse-WAW, 41 Married for 9 years S, 7 S, 5 BD - November 20th 2015
Sorry to hear that Jb9140. I definitely would talk to your lawyer about her taking the kids with her when she moves. Maybe you can work out a parenting plan before she leaves.
The only thing I can say is that I am told there is still hope. I actually have friends where the H moved out, the W realized he had been having a PA for 2 years, wife DB'ed (without knowing she was) and they started MC after 9 months and he is moving back in soon. So, keep DB'ing…for yourself primarily….detach at the same time you stand for your marriage.
M 44 H 46 M 20yrs T 25 yrs S15 S12
ILYBINILWY 7/18/15 Move to MBR 9/8/15 Physical Separation 10/10/15 Suspect A 8/2015 Confirm A 12/27/15 D filed by H 2/2/16
Well she's sticking to her guns. Wife has told me she's getting a apartment and taking the kids since I won't move out. I'm not quite sure how I feel about I'm taking the kids statement. I guess I need to talk to my lawyer ASAP. Looks like I'll be moving into a new stage of this growth experience.
Yep, you need to lawyer up fast. She can't move the kids from the marital home without your permission.
Me-LBH, 48 Spouse-WW, 48 Married for 19 years Son, 12 BD #1 - November 1998 (EA 7 months after wedding) BD #2 - November 2015 (same XBF EA) WW filed D February 2016 WW moved out April 2016
that is true about the kids, where they live right now is their home not grandmas, not the new apartment not anywhere other then the address on your drivers license, (marital home). Both parent need to agree to change that. Talk to your lawyer.
Me late 30's W mid 30's T 15, M 10 S4, S7 ILYBNILWY June 2015 In house S July 2015 W rings off Oct 2015 My ring off Feb 2015 Separate houses June 2016
She just texted me to let me know that she wants to meet up for coffee and discuss the situation. She asked if I would come with a open mind. if open mind means me moving out, I'm afraid she may see my close mind.
Me-LBH, 44 Spouse-WAW, 41 Married for 9 years S, 7 S, 5 BD - November 20th 2015
Sandi - i would really appreciate your input here. I really don't think I should leave my house, but I really am concerned about my wife's health. She says that she is having Panic attacks and generally a emotional wreck. I know some will say that's her problem, but I truly don't want to hurt my wife. I just feel like she has got it stuck in her mind that the husband should leave the house during separation. I sure this is about boundaries. I would love your opinion.
Me-LBH, 44 Spouse-WAW, 41 Married for 9 years S, 7 S, 5 BD - November 20th 2015
Sandi - i would really appreciate your input here. I really don't think I should leave my house, but I really am concerned about my wife's health. She says that she is having Panic attacks and generally a emotional wreck. I know some will say that's her problem, but I truly don't want to hurt my wife. I just feel like she has got it stuck in her mind that the husband should leave the house during separation. I sure this is about boundaries. I would love your opinion.
I am obviously not Sandi, but here are my 2 cents. She is blowing smoke up your ass and is gaslighting you. You are not causing your W's medical issues, so by definition you can not be held responsible for them. If she has medical issues she should consult a licensed medical professional.
And stay out of her head, trust me, you do not want to be in there. You do not know what she is thinking and being "extra nice" will get you nowhere and fast. Stick to your guns, take back you balls from her purse and show her you are a man, not a pushover.
