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Thanks guys. I think I will keep the kisses stopped.

The gal I married was back again last night. Mentioned that she had talked to the apt. manager and she was supposed to email me a form. No email. I asked her when she would be moving. She says well I have to get furniture. I said you can move out and then get your furniture. I think the romantic notion of your own apt. and the decorating and some quiet time is going to wear off pretty quick for her. She is an extrovert so, who knows.

The gal I married then starts asking questions about some med. procedures I have to get done etc. Then she comments that she had no idea how much weight I have lost and that she can see it in my face etc. Actually taking an interest in someone other than herself? I know, a real shocker. Tried to enjoy the night as we talked a lot but I was DBing all the way. Subtle is the word I am borrowing from Broke, and that described my behavior.

We'll see what today brings. Hope that you all are in a pleasant detached mood.

These WAS's live in a fantasy land...

Wait till she starts getting her own bills in the mail.

Oh, I completely agree. She easily could have come back to the bedroom if she wanted anything to happen.

No, all of her parting shots had to do with her disappointment over sex - which more than verifies an OM. From the honeymoon to a vacation in 1999 to our 25th anniversary.

As Sandi says - the 99 amazing times are blotted out by the one bad or "meh" time. That's how they do it.

daybyday: It sounds like what you're doing is working, so don't slip back into believing the old W is entirely back. She's got a lot of ground to cover still.

I wish my W would come back even for a second, rather she seems to be doubling down on the hate, which has drifted into paranoia now. I'm almost concerned for her mental health, but since she seems to be fully functional in her professional life I'll chalk it up to whatever mental process WW do to themselves.

It sounds like your old W is still rattling around in there somewhere, and what you're doing is drawing her out.

Thanks 13. Sorry for everyone on this forum. My particular sitch is like watching a junkie slowly kill themselves. Theres nothing I can do to change their mind, I just have to be the best ME i can be and hope they see the light.

I also can't rule out that at some time IC has listened to her story and advised "well, you're not going to be able to "find yourself" in that environment". So I have to let her do her thing and hope and work for the best for my S and I.

We are all good catches as we know what REAL work is. It's a shame they couldnt make us hear before they said "I'm done"

Perfectly stated! Sounds like your db'ing went well last night, stay on your toes and keep it up. I'm pulling for you!

Thank you Broke. I appreciate your kind words.

People have no idea, unless you have gone through this, just how gut wrenching and painful Sep or D can be. I never did. It is by far the worst thing I have ever felt. But, we will get through it. What would we do without this forum though?

Had another situation last night. WAW asked told me out of the blue, "collective Soul and the Goo Goo dolls are playing somewhere close this summer". i said oh yeah where? We both like CS. She didnt know. My question is, was she hinting for me to purchase tickets? Should I ask? Should I buy 2 and wait and see?

Feel she might be hinting but dont want to assume too much.

Totally mind reading. I'd get 2 tickets but keep it to yourself and play that card in the summer...

Agree with Vapo. You can always take a friend....

If you can afford to buy 2 , I would. I would keep them until closer to the date. You could go with a friend, with her, family etc.

I would buy them for you to go with no expectations of going with her right now that way you don't buy them then get crushes if you find out she ends up going with another friend.