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Boundaries are hard broke. It's almost like you have to treat them as individual goals I find. Get one set at a time and move to the next. Maybe it's me, it seems like if I try to many at once I waiver in all.

You are doing great with communicating. Keep practicing

Ok, so I just get a text from S15, his dad is buying him a brand-new, fancy gaming computer to have at his new house. There is no way my H would pay for a new computer to have at his house for S15 if he thought there was a chance that we were going to reconcile....feeling like I need to add this to my very long list of why in the h!ll do I still have any hope that H will come to his senses and want to be with me?! Ugh - and, I had such a great day GAL'ing today. This does not look good and it just takes the roller coaster way down.

Mind reading.

I'll tell you another story about the first time W left lol.

When W left me 18 months ago we had a chihuahua. This dog did not get along with ANY other dogs. We always wanted to get a boxer but couldn't because of the chihuahua.

W left and then 3 weeks later is posting pictures of her new boxer on facebook. I felt exactly you do now. There was no way we could reconcile now. We would have to get rid of one of the dogs. I was panicking! This meant it would be impossible to reconcile and that W was sending me a message, it's over.

Needless to say, she started missing me and we got back together. Now I have the boxer and my parents have the chihuahua.

You have to try and top guessing what he is thinking.
That why YOU are GAL it's for you to start to think about yourself, concentrate on you! if you are doing well as you say in GAL you should start to feel better.

Broke all we can have is hope without expectations. You hear about the computer and think negatively about it. But how about the trivial texts. That means you are still on his mind.

I don't want to try and tell you, oh things are looking good. I don't know that they are but I can tell you there is hope. Even if it does not work out I can tell you that you are going to be a stronger and you are going to find love, either with H or someone better!

You can sit by me! I had a great weekend and W slapped me down before I got home.

I am sure you know H better than me and you may be right on the computer meaning something. I wouldn't read into it too much, it could be a selfish act to make him seem the better/ cooler parent.

At 15 that stuff seems awesome, and it's a long time from now, but in a few years when they are older it will be more important that you were there, the memories you make and how they feel with you. Because in truth in a week that computer could be replaced by a million new and better ones.

Thornton... Thanks for the chihuahua story!

Great lesson, to stop analyzing everything. Believe none of what they say and half of what they do right?

Honestly, I do not know what I would do without all of you wonderful people on this board. I probably would've called H and said or done something very stupid. Instead, I posted here and got overwhelming support.

The funny part is I wasn't in tears about the computer and feeling down even more about the odds of reconciling with my H. I actually burst into tears when I read the posts from all of you. I am truly grateful for "meeting" all of you.

Ok, so moral of the story, no mind reading and keep GAL'ing. Don't let this take away my great day.

I second that broke. I do not know what I would have done without all you here. Even though I have never met any of you, I appreciate and care for each one of you.

We got your back, Broke.

Always come here first before reacting.